Batterers, Misogynists, Parental Alienation, (Perps Aligning) Courts Profits, Oppression, Research, Facts and Time Lines

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Batterers, Misogynists, Parental Alienation, (Perps Aligning) Courts Profits, Oppression, Research, Facts and Time Lines

 

From the BADASS’s: Bloggers Against Deprivation, Alienation Syndromes, & junk Science

Issues, per authors

• 000_Bancroft critiques Johnston 1998-Critical Analysis of Janet Johnston’s Typology of Batterers. Why you should care? AFCC (see site) are being trained by such types of understatements of these issues. Bancroft ran one of first batterer’s treatment programs for men, hands-on knowled 0
• 000_Custody Switch Sample Case read after “Bait & Switch.” Classic case. Protective Mom jailed (for protecting, or trying to). 0
• 000__Custody Bait ‘n Switch 101 Explore this Calif. site! (plus NAFCJ.net) to the process — Why aren’t laws enforced? How can this be? ($$$ explained) 0
• 1972-2009 Are Women Still Mad? (Phyllis C.) 1972ff (intelligent dialogues from Phyllis Chesler) 0
• 1993-NAFCJ researching wider “web” (Liz R. asks Why)There’s a method to the madness of this system, and who’s funding what and why. 0
• 2000 –HSLDA morphs to Patrick Henry College (Article) Where HSLDA meets Patrick Henry College, meets Washington DC (as recounted by a nonbeliever). Location, Location Location. 0
• 2005- Calif NOW asks Congress to investigate Fathers Rights Funding Fatherhood programs operate on the false premise that there is a “crisis in fatherlessness,” which is 0
• 2006 – State of American Manhood One of the more relevant pieces around, I blog on this June 2, 2009. Courtesy “postsecondary.org and postsecondaryopportunity.blogspot.com — pls visit! 0
• 2009 – David Blankenhorn writes Obama Father-to-Father, “More than half of all U.S. children today are likely to spend at least a significant portion of their childhoods living apart from their fathers. For African American children, tragically, that figure is at least 80 percent.” 0
• Evangelical Christianity’s Catch-22 on Violence The practice of hiding, ignoring, and even perpetuating the emotional and physical abuse of women is … rampant within evangelical Christian fellowships and as slow as our legal systems have been in dealing with violence against women by their husbands, 0
• JusticeWomen on-Govt/Corporate takeoversOver the last 15 years, the U.S. violence against women movement has become increasingly embedded in the very institutions we most need to change. The feminist rape and domestic violence centers of yesterday have become morphed into the quasi governmental 0
• Kids in Distress in AustraliaWell written discussion, many links. Parallels US situation…”In 1975 the no fault divorce rules came into force. This meant that the normal tests of morality and behavior such as drug addiction, infidelity, gambling, and violence were irrelevant to a d 0
• Richard Gardner says (er, said…) From StopFamilyViolence. Pro-PAS = Pro THIS. FYI, “Stop Family Violence does not agree with the views espoused by Gardner – we find them disgusting, offensive, and most importantly, they are not correct. Gardner’s views are based in his own perverse t 0

Links on Blogroll

• 000_Bancroft critiques Johnston 1998-Critical Analysis of Janet Johnston’s Typology of Batterers. Why you should care? AFCC (see site) are being trained by such types of understatements of these issues. Bancroft ran one of first batterer’s treatment programs for men, hands-on knowled 0
• 000_Custody Switch Sample Case read after “Bait & Switch.” Classic case. Protective Mom jailed (for protecting, or trying to). 0
• 000_Track Thy Govt (great tools) Open Source (not a govt site), great tracking tools & widgets. Pay attention !! 0
• 000__Custody Bait ‘n Switch 101 Explore this Calif. site! (plus NAFCJ.net) to the process — Why aren’t laws enforced? How can this be? ($$$ explained) 0
• 000__Know thy People (pipl link).. A handy site — check out your Experts, Associations, Publications. 0
• 18 categories of reporting Lost in Lima Ohio Who IS this blogger (found 4/22/09)? With 18 categories, and no apparent favoritism, intelligent commentary, and THINKING, its blogs like this (and Chesler, and others) that make me wonder how much, really, am I contributing here? See esp. the heading, “ 0
• 1963 — AFCC — just a little L.A. organization..(Meyer E. & Stanley C.) Tipping the Scales of Justice: AFCC members are: Judges~Lawyers~Mediators~Custody~Evaluators~Psychologists~Researchers~Academics~Parenting Coordinators (HUH??)~Social Workers~Court Administrators~Court Commissioners~ Counselors~Financial Planners. 0
• 1972-2009 Are Women Still Mad? (Phyllis C.) 1972ff (intelligent dialogues from Phyllis Chesler) 0
• 1980ff- Family Law Certification ACFLS was formed in 1980 following certification of the first group of Family Law Specialists. Next to nothing need be known about domestic violence, and child abuse is simply not mentioned in requirements. Interesting, that… 0
• 1981 CPR started (Jessica P., Nancy T., Jane V. plus 3 more)“The Center for Policy Research (CPR) is a private, nonprofit research agency founded in 1981 to work with public and private sector service providers to plan, develop, and test projects that improve the effectiveness & efficiency of human service age 0
• 1984-2005ff "Policy Studies", see "Center for Policy Research." SOME group has to DO what a policy studies group determines must be done. It helps to have staff in common to catch those govt contracts….1984-2005 and still growing, PSI is the executive arm?? of studies produced by CPR for the government. A must-explore site… For example: 0
• 1984-2008 Denver-based PSI, executive arm of CPR-born studies? In 1991, PSI was the first company in the country to operate an outsourced full-service child support office through a contract in Tennessee’s 10th Judicial District. We now run 16 such programs across the country, including the nation’s largest outso 0
• 1985 ACEstudy- Why we need to talk about this…(Robt & Vincent already did…)Childhood sexual abuse relating to adult obesity? ? Kaiser & CDC collaborate to study 0
• 1992 NOMAS-Oh! Brother (Geov P.) … acknowledges anti-feminist backlash…A turning point came at the 5th M&M conference in Los Angeles in 1980, when what had been an explicitly feminist political agenda was challenged by men’s rights presenters wanting to hold a workshop outlining 0
• 1993-Don & Wade get an idea. They have connections..A white house advisor and a child psychologist and “other prominent thinkers” conclude that “Widespread fatherlessness is the most socially consequential problem of our time,” and a multi-million dollar, federally-funded initiative is born…and still pro 0
• 1993-NAFCJ researching wider “web” (Liz R. asks Why)There’s a method to the madness of this system, and who’s funding what and why. 0
• 1993-What’s Fair after abuse? asks Jack Jack Straton: “So you are going to take away a father’s rights?” -”By and large, courts in this country have declared wife-beating to be unrelated to a man’s relationship with his child..” 0
• 1994 – Violence Against Women Act, still here.. National Advisory Committee members share their thoughts, ideas, and expertise by submitting recommendations on a variety of priority issues as the federal govt. develops its policies to address the crimes of domestic violence, sexual assault, dating viol 0
• 1995 "The End of Manhood" (rvw by Harvard Educ Publ Group) A Book for Men of Conscience by John Stoltenberg: This book therefore rejects the widespread notion that “manhood” can be somehow revised and redeemed — the contemporary project variously described as “reconstructing,” “reinventing,” “remythologizing,” 0
• 1995-Bill Clinton likes Don & Wade’s ideas White House Memorandum on Fatherhood primes the federal pump 0
• 2000 –HSLDA morphs to Patrick Henry College (Article) Where HSLDA meets Patrick Henry College, meets Washington DC (as recounted by a nonbeliever). Location, Location Location. 0
• 2002 DC Sniper, Family Court Corruption, Federal Fatherhood Fraud, Devoted Dad? Nothing new since then“For three weeks in October, the “Beltway Sniper” terrorized the Metropolitan Washington, DC area. Ten people were shot to death and three seriously wounded while they were doing routine activities like shopping, mowing grass, pumping gas, or going to sch 0
• 2002, MINCAVA, The Troubling Admission of Supervised Visitation Records in Custody Proceedings (pdf)For years, judges have asked parties litigating custody cases to find “neutral third parties,” generally a family member or close friend, to supervise visitation. … (for WHY they’ve been asking, see my post of 05-26-09: Federal Funding mandating increa 0
• 2003ff Why, maybe, people are fat, drunk, smoke, depressed, maybe… At what age did YOU become sexually active? A Kaiser / CDC study asked over 17,000 adults this and other questions. 0
• 2005 Calif Judge pleads guilty to porn California Superior Court Judge Nailed for Kiddie Porn (character of this site is not the point here)… 0
• 2005- Calif NOW asks Congress to investigate Fathers Rights Funding Fatherhood programs operate on the false premise that there is a “crisis in fatherlessness,” which is 0
• 2006 – State of American Manhood One of the more relevant pieces around, I blog on this June 2, 2009. Courtesy “postsecondary.org and postsecondaryopportunity.blogspot.com — pls visit! 0
• 2007ff-”God, Man, Then … Wait, How Does That Go?” (Curtis C./JMMS) “Journal of Men, Masculinities and Spirituality (JMMS) is an online, scholarly, peer-reviewed, interdisciplinary journal.” I will be checking this out. They discuss rhetoric vs practice and how people negotiate gender identities in these places. 0
• 2008 NOMAS opts for NY’s approach “Batterer programs, created in the mid 70’s, were originally designed to “treat” offenders. Today, most programs across the country continue to be entrenched in a treatment-based perspective, despite overwhelming empirical evidence that effective treatmen 0
• 2009 – David Blankenhorn writes Obama Father-to-Father, “More than half of all U.S. children today are likely to spend at least a significant portion of their childhoods living apart from their fathers. For African American children, tragically, that figure is at least 80 percent.” 0
• 2010 White House OMB — Proposed DHHS budget This is an overview, but you can navigate easily to the site and look around. Blogger is not happy. 0
• Anonymums – Australian but not exclusively national.Several links. Take some time here. 0
• Another Outspoken MomFurther and ongoing coverage of fundamental issues // news commentary 0
• Evangelical Christianity’s Catch-22 on Violence The practice of hiding, ignoring, and even perpetuating the emotional and physical abuse of women is … rampant within evangelical Christian fellowships and as slow as our legal systems have been in dealing with violence against women by their husbands, 0
• Richard Gardner says (er, said…) From StopFamilyViolence. Pro-PAS = Pro THIS. FYI, “Stop Family Violence does not agree with the views espoused by Gardner – we find them disgusting, offensive, and most importantly, they are not correct. Gardner’s views are based in his own perverse t 0
• StopFamilyViolence-Org (chart: Family Law v DV priorities) This chart is very helpful in understanding why Family Law does not deal well with Domestic Violence (or Child Abuse). The priorities are different. PLS NOTE: on “Related Blogs/URLs” my link to this organization is a misdirect. Having trouble correcti 0
• WordPress.com 0
• WordPress.org 0

Ltrs to/from US Presidents ~ Federal Agencies

• 000__Know thy Presidents’ Rhetoric An amazing search tool: “The American Presidency Project” he American Presidency Project is the only online resource that has consolidated, coded, and organized into a single searchable database: 0
• 1993-Don & Wade get an idea. They have connections..A white house advisor and a child psychologist and “other prominent thinkers” conclude that “Widespread fatherlessness is the most socially consequential problem of our time,” and a multi-million dollar, federally-funded initiative is born…and still pro 0
• 1993-NAFCJ researching wider “web” (Liz R. asks Why)There’s a method to the madness of this system, and who’s funding what and why. 0
• 1995-Bill Clinton likes Don & Wade’s ideas White House Memorandum on Fatherhood primes the federal pump 0
• 2005- Calif NOW asks Congress to investigate Fathers Rights Funding Fatherhood programs operate on the false premise that there is a “crisis in fatherlessness,” which is 0
• 2009 – David Blankenhorn writes Obama Father-to-Father, “More than half of all U.S. children today are likely to spend at least a significant portion of their childhoods living apart from their fathers. For African American children, tragically, that figure is at least 80 percent.” 0
• Handy Dandy Govt Dox siteCourtesy a university library, of course 0
• Law/Legal Research sites, Courtesy Patrick Henry CollegeDon’t forget to view “Bible College That Leads to the White House” @ http://www.commondreams.org/headlines04/0421-09.htm 0

Organizations

• 000__Know WHAT thy Govt is Funding: HHS a.k.a. “Do you know where your children ~~ scratch that ~~ $$548 BILLION ~~went?” And why, and whose ideas these were. Mindboggling $$, not to mention concepts. Get to know this site! 0
• 1963 — AFCC — just a little L.A. organization..(Meyer E. & Stanley C.) Tipping the Scales of Justice: AFCC members are: Judges~Lawyers~Mediators~Custody~Evaluators~Psychologists~Researchers~Academics~Parenting Coordinators (HUH??)~Social Workers~Court Administrators~Court Commissioners~ Counselors~Financial Planners. 0
• 1980ff- Family Law Certification ACFLS was formed in 1980 following certification of the first group of Family Law Specialists. Next to nothing need be known about domestic violence, and child abuse is simply not mentioned in requirements. Interesting, that… 0
• 1981 CPR started (Jessica P., Nancy T., Jane V. plus 3 more)“The Center for Policy Research (CPR) is a private, nonprofit research agency founded in 1981 to work with public and private sector service providers to plan, develop, and test projects that improve the effectiveness & efficiency of human service age 0
• 1984-2008 Denver-based PSI, executive arm of CPR-born studies? In 1991, PSI was the first company in the country to operate an outsourced full-service child support office through a contract in Tennessee’s 10th Judicial District. We now run 16 such programs across the country, including the nation’s largest outso 0
• 1993-NAFCJ researching wider “web” (Liz R. asks Why)There’s a method to the madness of this system, and who’s funding what and why. 0
• 2000 –HSLDA morphs to Patrick Henry College (Article) Where HSLDA meets Patrick Henry College, meets Washington DC (as recounted by a nonbeliever). Location, Location Location. 0
• 2005- Calif NOW asks Congress to investigate Fathers Rights Funding Fatherhood programs operate on the false premise that there is a “crisis in fatherlessness,” which is 0
• 2009 – David Blankenhorn writes Obama Father-to-Father, “More than half of all U.S. children today are likely to spend at least a significant portion of their childhoods living apart from their fathers. For African American children, tragically, that figure is at least 80 percent.” 0
• Evangelical Christianity’s Catch-22 on Violence The practice of hiding, ignoring, and even perpetuating the emotional and physical abuse of women is … rampant within evangelical Christian fellowships and as slow as our legal systems have been in dealing with violence against women by their husbands, 0
• Law/Legal Research sites, Courtesy Patrick Henry CollegeDon’t forget to view “Bible College That Leads to the White House” @ http://www.commondreams.org/headlines04/0421-09.htm 0
• More Acroynms: HHS in re OWH (Office of Women’s Health) Directions Collaborations The Office on Women’s Health (OWH) was established in 1991 within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Its Vision is to ensure that “All Women and Girls are Healthier and Have a Better Sense of Well Being.” Its mission is to “provide leadersh 0
• Richard Gardner says (er, said…) From StopFamilyViolence. Pro-PAS = Pro THIS. FYI, “Stop Family Violence does not agree with the views espoused by Gardner – we find them disgusting, offensive, and most importantly, they are not correct. Gardner’s views are based in his own perverse t 0

Overviews

• $$ USA spending 2000-2009, by Federal Agency Before you click, GUESS: Which are the top 3 spenders? 0
• 000_Track Thy Govt (great tools) Open Source (not a govt site), great tracking tools & widgets. Pay attention !! 0
• 000__Custody Bait ‘n Switch 101 Explore this Calif. site! (plus NAFCJ.net) to the process — Why aren’t laws enforced? How can this be? ($$$ explained) 0
• 000__Know WHAT thy Govt is Funding: HHS a.k.a. “Do you know where your children ~~ scratch that ~~ $$548 BILLION ~~went?” And why, and whose ideas these were. Mindboggling $$, not to mention concepts. Get to know this site! 0
• 18 categories of reporting Lost in Lima Ohio Who IS this blogger (found 4/22/09)? With 18 categories, and no apparent favoritism, intelligent commentary, and THINKING, its blogs like this (and Chesler, and others) that make me wonder how much, really, am I contributing here? See esp. the heading, “ 0
• 1972-2009 Are Women Still Mad? (Phyllis C.) 1972ff (intelligent dialogues from Phyllis Chesler) 0
• 1984-2008 Denver-based PSI, executive arm of CPR-born studies? In 1991, PSI was the first company in the country to operate an outsourced full-service child support office through a contract in Tennessee’s 10th Judicial District. We now run 16 such programs across the country, including the nation’s largest outso 0
• 1993-NAFCJ researching wider “web” (Liz R. asks Why)There’s a method to the madness of this system, and who’s funding what and why. 0
• 2002 DC Sniper, Family Court Corruption, Federal Fatherhood Fraud, Devoted Dad? Nothing new since then“For three weeks in October, the “Beltway Sniper” terrorized the Metropolitan Washington, DC area. Ten people were shot to death and three seriously wounded while they were doing routine activities like shopping, mowing grass, pumping gas, or going to sch 0
• 2010 White House OMB — Proposed DHHS budget This is an overview, but you can navigate easily to the site and look around. Blogger is not happy. 0
• Evangelical Christianity’s Catch-22 on Violence The practice of hiding, ignoring, and even perpetuating the emotional and physical abuse of women is … rampant within evangelical Christian fellowships and as slow as our legal systems have been in dealing with violence against women by their husbands, 0
• Handy Dandy Govt Dox siteCourtesy a university library, of course 0
• Jurisdictionary® work for justice . . insist on due process . . Clear concepts / flowchart…Wish I’d found it before I divorced… 0
• JusticeWomen on-Govt/Corporate takeoversOver the last 15 years, the U.S. violence against women movement has become increasingly embedded in the very institutions we most need to change. The feminist rape and domestic violence centers of yesterday have become morphed into the quasi governmental 0
• Kids in Distress in AustraliaWell written discussion, many links. Parallels US situation…”In 1975 the no fault divorce rules came into force. This meant that the normal tests of morality and behavior such as drug addiction, infidelity, gambling, and violence were irrelevant to a d 0
• Richard Gardner says (er, said…) From StopFamilyViolence. Pro-PAS = Pro THIS. FYI, “Stop Family Violence does not agree with the views espoused by Gardner – we find them disgusting, offensive, and most importantly, they are not correct. Gardner’s views are based in his own perverse t 0
• StopFamilyViolence-Org (chart: Family Law v DV priorities) This chart is very helpful in understanding why Family Law does not deal well with Domestic Violence (or Child Abuse). The priorities are different. PLS NOTE: on “Related Blogs/URLs” my link to this organization is a misdirect. Having trouble correcti 0

US Govt Sites, search tools

• $$ USA spending 2000-2009, by Federal Agency Before you click, GUESS: Which are the top 3 spenders? 0
• 000__Know thy Presidents’ Rhetoric An amazing search tool: “The American Presidency Project” he American Presidency Project is the only online resource that has consolidated, coded, and organized into a single searchable database: 0
• 000__Know WHAT thy Govt is Funding: HHS a.k.a. “Do you know where your children ~~ scratch that ~~ $$548 BILLION ~~went?” And why, and whose ideas these were. Mindboggling $$, not to mention concepts. Get to know this site! 0
• 1995-Bill Clinton likes Don & Wade’s ideas White House Memorandum on Fatherhood primes the federal pump 0
• 2010 White House OMB — Proposed DHHS budget This is an overview, but you can navigate easily to the site and look around. Blogger is not happy. 0
• Handy Dandy Govt Dox siteCourtesy a university library, of course 0
• More Acroynms: HHS in re OWH (Office of Women’s Health) Directions Collaborations The Office on Women’s Health (OWH) was established in 1991 within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Its Vision is to ensure that “All Women and Girls are Healthier and Have a Better Sense of Well Being.” Its mission is to “provide leadersh 0

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Who’s Gonna Murder the Family Next?

Note: Cross posted from [wp angelfury] A Human Rights Issue-Custodial Justice.

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Who’s Gonna Murder the Family Next?

 

(Randi James) http://www.randijames.com/2009/04/whos-gonna-murder-family.html

I’d say that the following article is overall decent, but I’d like to point out a few things. My commentary is in blue.
(emphasis mine)

Experts eye murder-suicide perpetrators’ traits
BY CAROL POLSKY | carol.polsky@newsday.com

Vengeful ex-employees, abusive husbands or boyfriends angry over a separation, financially strapped and overwhelmed providers, depressed fathers, psychotic mothers: When do they cross a line, as only a very few do, and kill their families and themselves?
I want you to notice the adjectives describing fathers, and the adjective describing mothers. I’ll wait while you re-read it…Matter of fact. I want you to comment on the article so I can see if you picked up on it.
Police in Baltimore County say the deaths of a Garden City family, discovered in a hotel room Monday, were a case of murder-suicide. But they have not released details about who they believe was the killer.
They release the details about everything else. What’s the problem? I have noticed a trend in the past 7 days of NOT reporting the killer in the original news articles.

Psychologists, sociologists and criminologists can only provide general descriptions of personality traits that often emerge in cases of what is called familicide or family annihilation.
Understand that: General. These professionals cannot predict anything. They do what you and I can do, look at and gather information. You know who else can provide "general descriptions of personality traits"? Astrologists.
The Washington, D.C.- based Violence Policy Center reports that in cases of murder-suicide, 95 percent are committed by men.
Read: Not Too Responsible Fatherhood: Blaming, Shaming, and Gaming
Louis Schlesinger, forensic psychology professor at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York City, said there were two different types of familicidal offenders.
Remember that this is not fact, but perhaps a damn good explanation. (Read Marcella’s Stop It Before It Starts: Part 1 Domestic Violence)

One takes a proprietorial view of his wife, gets angry, and attacks her and everyone around her. The second type is "the despondent male," who feels he must kill his family and himself to spare them the humiliation or pain of what life will bring, Schlesinger said.
I want to know, are psychologists making these assessments after the women and children are already dead? Because it would help to know if a man had this view long before the murders. I think a good time would be…during family court. But you see the problem is, the men actually PASS the psych exams, and the women do not. (Read Custody Evaluations on RightsforMothers)
Why? Because psych tests, like many other things, are written with a certain group in mind, therefore automatically biased against anyone who isn’t in the "in" group. Understand it akin to standardized testing and IQ testing on people of color.
"It’s not rational, it’s not reasonable," he said. "If he tries to kill himself and survives, he views the [slain] family with sympathy. . . . He feels tremendous regret."

What does he regret though? Killing? Failing? Or the repercussions? There is a big fucking difference.

Some experts say they foresee an increase in such cases in financially stressful times, although studies show suicides generally decrease in such circumstances.
So, when people are stressed out, they are more prone to take out other people? And when they are not financially strapped, they mostly just kill themselves? Hmmm.
But Jack Levin, a sociologist and criminologist at Northeastern University in Boston, said there is almost always a "catastrophic loss that precedes a family annihilation."
Triggers can be a loss of a job, money, a relationship or a loved one. Often, he said, there is a feeling of isolation.

If these murderous men feel isolated, is the solution to reward them with access to their former spouses and children? To keep the marriage together? So, let me get this: Marriage initiatives and shared parenting presumptions were created to benefit men? (To keep them from "suiciding" as they would say in Australia) Oh, yeah, duh!!

"Most family annihilators, and typically it’s the husband and father, have been frustrated and depressed over a long period of time," he said. "But they, unlike other depressed individuals, blame everybody else for their miseries.”
Dingdingding, key words in red. But I’m not understanding. I thought depressed persons blamed themselves. Period. So how can family annihilators/murderous husbands and fathers be depressed and yet they are blaming everyone else? Wouldn’t that NOT fit into the depression category? Maybe more like psychopaths or something else?

From: Australian Family australianfamilymovement@yahoo.com.au
To: fathers4equality@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Saturday, 27 December, 2008 6:16:28 PM
Subject: [fathers4equality] Bruce Pardo, hero

Here’s a toast to Bruce Pardo. He was a man.
Many will speak badly of him.
A few will say that he was a victim.
All will say that it was an unfortunate situation.
But he was obviously a man who would not submit to injustice.
His actions bespeak a man who thought about his actions, who had things well planned including a "plan B" which eventuated with his suicide.
Bruce Pardo, you were a Man.
I salute you and raise my glass at your courage and honesty.
Hail, your Spirit, Bruce. May it energize others in your situation.
Goodbye, brother.

Again, why aren’t psychologists catching these things BEFORE the murders?
Or, he said, in cases when the man may be described as a dedicated husband and devoted father, the motive may be "a perverted sense of altruism that they’d be better off dead than live in this miserable existence."
Well, he should have asked them first, like in the case of the Amador family in Miami. One of the slain daughters had told a friend that her father had been sexually abusing her for years. When Mr. Amador murdered the family, the community talked about what a great man he was. So, are we saying that Mr. Amador thought his family would be better off dead? Because it seemed that they would have been better off withouthim.
In general, he said, most familicides are suicidal rampages, "but first the killer will take care of his loved ones."
If they are going to go on these rampages, they should reverse that order. Things would proceed much more smoothly.
If the person is religious, "He may feel he can reunite with loved ones in the hereafter, or wants to spare his loved ones the humiliation of his suicide."
Right. Maybe he should have asked God first.
4 dead in Fla. family slaying; teen son escapes

Divorce filing and arrest come before Dade City couple’s murder-suicide

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murder-suicide

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· Police standoff ends in murder-suicide

· Husband and Wife Dead in Apparent Murder-Suicide

· I Found Some Real Men, and They Are Firefighters

· Girl Calls 911; Deputies Find Both Parents Dead

· Man Kills Wife, Self in Apparent Murder-Suicide

husband murders wife

· Place Blame Where Blame Belongs

· "And the True Victims Are the Children"

· Women Initiate More Divorces

· The Making of Fatherlessness Propaganda [in Australia]

· Maybe We Should Start With Taking Guns Away from Men…

· Kill One Wife, Go to Jail, Get Released, Get Remarried, Kill the New Wife

Florida

· Charging for Child Support: Exploitation of the Poor

· Parental Alienation Profiteering: Like Taking Candy from a Baby

· "And the True Victims Are the Children"

· Know Your Psych’s History

· Pennsylvania, Corruption, and Children, Just Like Florida (Minus the Pedophiles)

· No Justice for OIDV Blogger

violent crime

· Fatherless Children…Those from Violent Family Households Take It Day By Day

· Federal Grants Aiding Human Rights Violations

· "And the True Victims Are the Children"

· Hit Me and I’ll Hit You Back, Harder: When Domestic Violence Just Ain’t Equal

· Dear Tempted

· The Making of Fatherlessness Propaganda [in Australia]

news

· Place Blame Where Blame Belongs

· Updated: Why Is Eddy Curry Not Raising His Son?

· Maybe We Should Start With Taking Guns Away from Men…

· Kill One Wife, Go to Jail, Get Released, Get Remarried, Kill the New Wife

· Kentucky Man, 2½-Year-Old Die In Murder-Suicide

· 5 Dead, 1 Wounded in Apparent Murder-Suicide in California Condominium

on 5/04/2009

Labels: fathers murdering children, Florida, husband murders wife, murder-suicide, news, psychological testing, Veronica Scott, violent crime, Wendy Bellar

1 advocates for peace:

DenomShi May 4, 2009 5:07:00 PM

You have done a wonderful job with breaking out this article and all of your comments are spot on!
I can only hope that others will read this and actually begin to SEE what is going on right before our very eyes.
Thank you for this!

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Note: Cross posted from [wp angelfury] A Human Rights Issue-Custodial Justice.

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I am sitting here at the park this lovely calm quiet-very still fall day.

Note: Cross posted from [wp angelfury]Battered Mothers Rights - A Human Rights Issue.

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I am sitting here at the park this lovely calm quiet-very still fall day.

Thinking of my daughter- my mother- of what it must feel like to not to always be in fear for your safety.It wears one out…. to constantly be in fight or flight mode. The system of abuse.

The system of abuse-so many lives it has claimed… and I am just one of thousands, whom remain frantically trying to simply stay alive; on top of the judicial horrors that continue with my daughter and like that of so many others. As always, I am drawn back to what is it that I can control—or do- to make a difference.?

As I sit here this beautiful day, watching the squirrels gather nuts, dropping them- playing with each other- listening to the world around me… the sounds of life, nature, indeed the universe it’s self; my heart aches. Desperately trying to find the inner strength to ‘pack’ and move yet again. Triaged as all battered women know and do- we carry all and everything we need in our purse- or car or tent and sleeping bag-so the main things are already secure- and I not wanting to go back into that ‘terror’ mode elected this spot at this time. In the park- and of course like my previous statement- all I truly need-is always with me. All but the ability to ‘live’ the beauty of life that is.

Hence, this blog entry- my puking if you will-I don't do this often- but like any other poison in the body-illness or other purging by throwing up-or crying till your vocal cords no longer can speak- like i did when my dear mom died-and the brutal attacks of the judiciary as a result the known adage that a coward, bully, abuser will always kick you hardest when you are down-remains true. So I must come stay above that – and I will. But for now I purge. Tomorrow I change the world.

After all these years, sixteen hellish years- one would think that the heart would stop bleeding-it doesn't. That is the nature of humanity, and ultimately will be what saves- humanity. Simply.

What do I want my child to know about the mother that she was forbidden to see..??  To know? To grow up with? What can I do to make it so that she knows, one day- how so very much she is loved..?

I often tell many mothers in crisis what I come back to now. The best gift a parent can give to their child is ‘example’. No matter if they see them, know them or are ripped completely out of their lives. The most horrible of all- and their goal- the abusers the  criminal the perps rightful reward through our ‘Justice System”.

The next best thing to killing them, and if they can they will do that to. Ok so this is what I will not allow to happen. For myself anyway. Their are so many dead --- so many who have been silenced- their voices, their cries… like my internal cries- the cries of my own daughter falling once again on deaf ears.

There is so much I want to say to you my daughter. But where would one begin..? I think that out of all my dreams I have only but one. To simply walk with you in the park. On a day like this in a park like this, wrapped in only the warmth of the sun and the beauty of the trees… and that simple quiet-unspoken but known and understood complete understanding. I beleive this is called a chance to begin perhaps to ‘heal’.

The word ‘heal’ almost feels like a soothing band-aide on my broken heart. a simple thing really. To allow one to begin the “natural” process of healing.

We do not need court whores to do this. We as humans are naturally the perfect curers of our own endured traumas- to be allowed to simply exist.. to be left alone to just ‘be’. we can take care of this all on our own….

Ok, so this will not be achieved through court whore world- and again I am left to my self on a day like this- tired of ‘fear’ and just plain tired of all the years of not being ‘free’.

Freedom- I live in Topeka, Kansas-USA- where the people all wear blindfolds and THINK we are Free- define freedom… or, what does each individual person believe that freedom is, for their selves. As a society do we have the right to define another's freedom? No.

I am a survivor of brutal assaults. They call it Domestic Violence. There is nothing Domestic about it. The criminal who perpetrated the violence against my daughter and I was given complete custody-criminal rewards- and true to his words when i left 16 years ago-“If you leave I will take your child’-did.

Ten years ago after a 6 year battle through two court of appeals two petition for reviews to KS state supreme court ( all before year 2000. I remain without knowing my daughter- my daughter robbed of the chance to know her mother- forced to grow up in hell a hell that in and of its self must be a hell of the most unimaginable… I know this from other children who ‘aged’ out of the system. They are damaged beyond belief- most don't survive at all.. they kill themselves IF they survive the years of torture all graced by the hand called ‘Justice’. what kind of world are we leaving to our future??? our children.. Our future world leaders, senators, politicians…God what a dark and black world the smell of death in place of the smells of this lovely park I sit in now.

My complete love to my mother and my daughter, to both I miss beyond words and it is with both that I continue to to draw strength from, I love you both, therefore I have no choice other than to succeed, and succeed I will.

I have purged-

I will not shut up, give up and I will not go away!

www.Angelfury,org

www.JusticeForMothers.com

www.KS-FCRC.com

www.KansansForJudicialAccountability.com

 

-be the change-

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The Path Unpaved

Note: Cross posted from ~Love For Her Daughter~.

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For my daughter my mother, for myself, for HOPE for Humanity-Don't give up Ever!!!

 

 

The Path Unpaved

 

I've walked this path alone so often,
I know it's form by heart.
And now, as always, my footing's unsure,
on its unstable and rocky start.

I second-guess each step I take,
for fear I'll slip and fall,

That one wrong step will lend me to,
an end that ends it all.

One misplaced foot, one careless word,
an avalanche begins;
The tug of war of heart and mind,
till one of them finally wins.

Each time I've walked this troubled path,
It’s ended  journey not together,
Each time I fear that to walk it again,
will tear me apart forever.

I haven't the strength to walk it alone,
nor the energy, if only I knew..
As every time I take this route,
I fear it may be my last too.

I don't know how to stop the pain,
Of traveling down this road again.
I've fought it time and over,
only to start it over again.

Yet each and every day I persevere,

As I steady my Unstable start:

I know that only change can come

From all of Passions Heart.

So if I must, I’ll rest awhile.

Ignore the Siren song.

Take comfort in the truth I dare

Unshakably, I will try to stand eternally strong.

© AngelFury

2005

Note: Cross posted from ~Love For Her Daughter~.

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The Path Unpaved

Note: Cross posted from ~Love For Her Daughter~.

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For my daughter my mother, for myself, for HOPE for Humanity-Don't give up Ever!!!

 

 

The Path Unpaved

 

I've walked this path alone so often,
I know it's form by heart.
And now, as always, my footing's unsure,
on its unstable and rocky start.

I second-guess each step I take,
for fear I'll slip and fall,

That one wrong step will lend me to,
an end that ends it all.

One misplaced foot, one careless word,
an avalanche begins;
The tug of war of heart and mind,
till one of them finally wins.

Each time I've walked this troubled path,
It’s ended  journey not together,
Each time I fear that to walk it again,
will tear me apart forever.

I haven't the strength to walk it alone,
nor the energy, if only I knew..
As every time I take this route,
I fear it may be my last too.

I don't know how to stop the pain,
Of traveling down this road again.
I've fought it time and over,
only to start it over again.

Yet each and every day I persevere,

As I steady my Unstable start:

I know that only change can come

From all of Passions Heart.

So if I must, I’ll rest awhile.

Ignore the Siren song.

Take comfort in the truth I dare

Unshakably, I will try to stand eternally strong.

© AngelFury

2005

Note: Cross posted from ~Love For Her Daughter~.

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A DREAM FOR YOU (a mother’s dream for her daughter)

 

A DREAM FOR YOU
(a mother’s dream for her daughter)

If I could dream
The dream I wanted too,
I would close my eyes,
And dream a dream for you.

I would give you all the world,
That you are deserving of,
And to you I would give
My everlasting love.

I would see to it,
That you were never sad.
And nothing in your life
Would ever happen bad.

I would wish for you,
All things would go your way,
And you would always be happy,
Each and every day.

In my dream
You would stay
Just as beautiful
As you are today.

Life for you would be as perfect
As the blueness of the sky,
And no one would ever hurt you,
Or ever make you cry.

I know it's just a dream,
But if dreams could come true,
I would close my eyes,
And dream a dream for you.

xoxoxo
~mom~

Claudine Dombrowski

AngelFury@AngelFury.org

www.AngelFury.org