Marin County: Audit Unveils Failure of Family Court - Sets Precedence For Needed Audits in Family Courts Nation Wide

Marin Voice: Audit unveils court problems

By Kathleen Russell
Guest op-ed column

Posted: 01/28/2011 01:59:00 AM PST

THE California Bureau of State Audits last week released its 109-page report, detailing the results of its 17-month audit of the Marin and Sacramento Family Courts.

Across the board and on nearly every measured aspect, the Sacramento and Marin family courts failed to meet the minimum standards required by law.

So you may wonder what the latest audit of the Marin family court means, and how the same report described by state Sen. Mark Leno as "quite disturbing" could be hailed by local Marin court officials as "proving beyond any doubt" that "there's no problem."

Simple. The Marin Court has deliberately mischaracterized this audit as comprehensive and boasted that "the report does not contain a single finding of "... judges and mediators putting children at risk."

Interestingly, the Center for Judicial Excellence and our allies drafted an earlier audit request focused on evaluating "increasing evidence that children in custody disputes are being removed from their primary, non-abusive caretakers and placed in the custody of parents who have been identified as the children's physical or sexual abusers."

The Administrative Office of the Courts — the lobbying arm of the California courts — labeled these "very serious allegations" and fought to narrow the scope of the audit, explaining in a May 19, 2009 letter, "these claims cannot be verified or refuted by the data collected in the audit."

The Marin Court has apparently forgotten the California judiciary's stated position on the parameters of a viable audit.

The audit provides a valuable explanation as to why things remain awry in the Marin family court.

Consider some of the findings: The Marin Office of Family Court Services could not demonstrate that five of the seven family court mediators met even the minimum qualifications and training necessary to perform mediations and make custody recommendations. The court does not document and track complaints and potential conflicts of interest and their dispositions.

The Marin mediators' current supervisor is not qualified to perform clinical supervision of family court mediators regarding its individual cases, as required by law.

For all eight sampled complaints filed against mediators, the manager did not document whether he consulted with the mediator during the complaint investigation. In a considerable number of instances, the audit reported "limitations in their ability to determine the number of complaints received," making their data unreliable.

We must wonder whether the mass document destruction by the court and others during an eight-month standoff with the state auditor contributed to the significant gaps in recordkeeping.

The Marin Court could not demonstrate that its private evaluators were qualified and met certain requirements. For three of the five sample cases that the auditor reviewed involving a private custody evaluator, domestic violence training certificates were not attached to completed evaluation reports, as required by California Rules of Court.

Quality control issues dominate the report.

Because of the national impact of our work to protect children in family court, the center was recognized in October by President Barack Obama and Vice President Joe Biden at an intimate White House ceremony commemorating Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

We were also honored to coordinate and facilitate the first White House briefing on the national family court crisis last May.

While the Marin Court seems unable or unwilling to accept auditor criticism and instead is attacking the center, we remain steadfast in our nearly five-year commitment to try to work collaboratively with the Marin Court to improve its service to our community's children.

We invite the Marin Superior Court to enlist the Marin County Bar Association and other interested stakeholders in a community forum to discuss how we can collaborate to transform Marin's Family Court into a model of best practices that protects children and makes us all proud.

Kathleen Russell is executive director of the Marin Center for Judicial Excellence.


Barry Goldstein12:08 am

This issue should be discussed in the context of current scientific research about domestic violence cases. The research establishes that custody courts are routinely getting domestic violence cases wrong and making decisions that place children in jeopardy. This problem has continued longer than should have been tolerated in part because of the failure of the media to expose the harm to children. Accordingly I particularly appreciate you providing space for the column by Kathleen Russell in order to help educate the public.

As a result of the research, we are in a transition period from the outdated and discredited practices that have led to so many tragedies to the adoption of best practices based on the specialized body of scientific research now available about domestic violence. It is disappointing that the Marin courts initially acted in such a defensive and closed manner.

I hope they will look more closely at the report, the reaction to the report and the new research and take a more constructive approach to reforming the system in order to better protect children. I particularly like Kathleen's suggestion that the court work together with the bar association and other stakeholders to adopt best practices. I would particularly recommend that the domestic violence community be included and be considered the leader in this process.

They are the resource in the community for responding to domestic violence. Sometimes they are mistakenly treated as if they were partisans, but that ignores the fact that the legislature and the courts have laws and policies to prevent domestic violence. We would never consider firefighters partisan because they always oppose arson so there is no reason to consider domestic violence advocates partisan because they support the court's policy against domestic violence. The only difference is that firefighters don't have to face arsonists' rights groups and no one would treat arsonists and firefighters as two sides of a dispute who have to be treated equally.

Family Court Mafia: AMPP Mothers Are Coming For You!

We are mad as hell and we aren't going to take it any more!!


AMPP—Back from the 8th Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference 2011.This is the year of the child.

Until Mothers and children’s voices are heard—We will NEVER shut up- We will never Give up—And we will NEVER Go AWAY

Court Whores – Your Days are Numbered!


Children are our future? Then why do judges send them to live with abusers??



Targeting: The President of the United States, The U.S. Senate, The U.S. House of Representatives, see more...

Started by: Kym Payne Lesley

There is a crisis in our nation's family courts.  Judges are awarding child custody to abusers and pedophiles and punishing the safe parent who tries to protect the children from harm.

Have you ever heard the saying "Good Mamas don't get their kids taken away from them?"  I heard it too.  Well... there is a catch... Good Mamas that left really bad men DO IN FACT lose custody of their children... all of the time....  In turn, the statistics will ASTONISH AND OUTRAGE YOU!

The reason why we have all of the petitions against ANY kind of violence is because these perpetrators learned it from somewhere....  today our government, law makers, police force, etc teach young minds that they deserve to be abused until they become the abusers too.  Violence is passable & rewarded in America.

If you know FOUR women, then you know someone who is going to experiece violence at some level in her life... and its your responsibility to sign and get four more people to sign it as well.  If not, the world will stay ignorant and our kids will be trapped as victimizers or victims.

FACTS: Like Father Like Son, Like Mother Like Daughter
1. Witnessing violence between one’s parents or caretakers is the strongest risk factor of transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next... by becoming the aggressor or the victim who has learned through life... its acceptable.

2.Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they become adults.

3. 30% to 60% of perpetrators of intimate partner violence also abuse children in the household.

4. 1.3 million physical assaults are reported by women who are abused by their intimate partner... and to make it worse, msot cases of domestic violence is never even reported.

5.  Studies conducted by the National Center for State Courts (NCSC), looking solely at court records, have found documented evidence of domestic violence in 20-55% of contested custody cases.

6. A survey of battered women by the Arizona Coalition Against Domestic Violence found that courts awarded joint or sole custody to the alleged batterers 56-74% of the time (depending on the county).  Many of these cases involved documented child abuse or adult abuse.

7. A study of 300 cases over a 10-year period in which the mother sought to protect the child from sexual abuse, found that 70% resulted in unsupervised visitation or shared custody; in 20% of the cases the mothers completely lost custody, and many of these lost all visitation rights.

8. Abusive fathers are twice as liekly to seek sole custody of children.

9. In 2010, we are close to the 100 DEATHS mark due to the Family Court System awarding sole custody or joint custody to Domestic Violence offenders.



Lenient Domestic Violence Laws: Why is our government scared of perpetrators?

If 9 out of 10 men that take mothers to court to obtain sole custody are domestic violence offenders... AND.... 70% of those perpetrators win sole custody... what is to become of our future?

Our children are dying at a rate of 5 a day due to child abuse.  75% are under the age of 4.  That rate almost doubled since 1995... so have the rates of Domestic Violence Offenders who gain sole custody.  This is our fault for not changing our world and saving our babies. 

Women who are "good mothers trying to protect their children" are being removed from their children's lives or getting only supervised visitation. 

Thousands of women are being muted by the Family Court System to not speak of her Domestic Violence experience.  Saying the problem is "embarrassing or shaming the children" by the mothers who speak out... when the problem is the fathers who are unable to show the children a real example of a "man".

Children are learning that violence is rewarded.  So... their problem solving skills are being formed by our government that won't put a concrete boundary around the influence of violent offenders over our children.

You are a political figure with the power to make a change.  Leave a big footprint in the world please, if you won't stand up for our women and children...  they will never be able to stand themselves.

Take a closer look at the statistics.  Then take a close look at stiffer laws and more effective consequences for people who hurt the ones they are supposed to protect. 

Much Love.... I know you can help... and trust that you will.



Rikki Dombrowski: Don’t Give Up – Love, Hope and Empowerment—The Sham in Shawnee County (Topeka, Kansas)

Your Mother Claudine Dombrowski Loves you and she is here for you when you can finally break free. She has not given up, she will not shut up and she will not go away!

“Granny died and her grand-daughter was not allowed to attend her funeral.”

“This tribute video was made– for three generations lost—destroyed by the Family Courts.”

“Granny, Mom and Rikki three hearts united across the universe and above and beyond the Shawnee County Courthouse MAFIA.”


Hope Love Power and enlightenment

I am a thousand winds that blow,

I am the diamond glints on snow,

I am the sun on ripened grain,

I am the gentle autumn rain.


When you awaken in the morning’s hush,

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.


Do not stand at my grave and weep

I am not there; I do not sleep.

Do not stand at my grave and cry,

I am not there; I did not die.

by, Mary Elizabeth Frye


Sham in Shawnee County (Topeka, Kansas)


Sham in Shawnee County (Topeka, Kansas) The last time I did court watch for protective mother CLAUDINE DOMBROWSKI, I called my subsequent posting on the experience "Showdown in Shawnee County." See the post here:


I can't even call the hearing held on October 19, 2010 a showdown. It was just a sham.

Let's do a little review. Claudine is a battered mother who lost custody of her only daughter in an ex parte hearing in 2004. (Ex parte means the mother wasn't even represented at the hearing.) Since then, she has had very little visitation. The hearing in January 2010 (see post above) was supposed to fix that. And finally, Claudine was awarded two hours of unsupervised visitation on Sunday and telephone contact twice a week. We figured it was a start.

Well, this was not to be. And not because of anything Claudine did.

As Claudine testified, visitation went well. She taught her now teenage daughter to drive. They shopped. They went to Barnes and Noble. They talked about girl stuff. Boy stuff. Just like any other mother and daughter. In fact, Claudine was able to enjoy her first mother's day with her daughter in ten years. There were no negative interactions. In fact, it looked like some serious healing was going on.

And in that lays the problem. You see, abusers and their enablers don't like healing. They find that supremely threatening to their power and control. So of course, the process must be stopped lest their domination of the child and the overall "situation" be compromised.

So in May 2010, all visitation stopped at Dad HAL RICHARDSON's personal discretion--which he admitted during his own testimony. He made the unilateral decision that he would no longer take his daughter to the law enforcement center for visitation (presumably at her "request"--but more on that later.) He made sure that during the times of designated phone contact, the phone was never answered as it was set on fax. (67 Direct Contempt's Dad admitted under oath that the phone does go to fax mode when not answered--though he denied "inhibiting" phone access, which is not surprising. But then, how did Mom know to testify that the phone was set on fax when she called? Oh those little details....) But of course, Dad didn't exactly encourage or welcome contact either--that much was evident. In fact, it was pretty clear to me that he was extremely negative about Claudine, and doing his best to crush any contact between her and her daughter.

But like many abusers, he projected his own motives onto the child, now a teenager. SHE was the one who was "uncomfortable." She was the one who was "afraid." Afraid of what? Physical abuse, sexual violence? No, there was no evidence of that beyond vague innuendos about "fighting" that allegedly occurred in the distant past (These innuendos weren't even brought up in January. Must be a new game plan.)

Apparently we are supposed to believe that this teenage girl is "afraid" because Mom allegedly doesn't "follow the rules." What rules? Apparently the court's rules regarding discussion of this case.

All this was echoed by Guardian ad Litem JILL DYKES. And once again, just as in January, Ms. Dykes didn't even feign professional neutrality in this case, as she literally sat at Daddy's elbow the whole time.

Are you kidding me? The typical teenager would blow off a parent's attempt to discuss court matters--ASSUMING any such discussion took place, which Claudine denies. They certainly wouldn't be "afraid" of such a discussion. Annoyed perhaps. But not "afraid" or traumatized. This is just classic projection. That this teenager is such a hothouse flower that she is somehow irreparably injured by any possible or potential references to her parents' legal issues, which I'm sure she already knows all about anyway. Nonsense.

I would humbly suggest that it is Hall Richardson and his enablers who are "afraid" of any possible open or frank discussion of this case. Or any contact between this mother and daughter. And their little "feelings" shouldn't play any part of this.

Under Kansas law, visitation isn't shut off because somebody is "uncomfortable" for vague and specious reasons. If that were the case, then controlling and manipulative parents would be cutting off access for whatever reason they dreamed up that day.

Unfortunately, given the dynamics of domestic violence, children who are in the control of abusers often find it necessary to parrot what the abusers want for their own survival. Which makes if very difficult for this child to speak up and articulate what she wants--except in private to her own mother.

And frankly, this ordeal shows a complete double standard. Were this a custodial mother blocking visitation for such vague and specious reasons, she would no doubt be labeled as an "alienator" with "parental alienation syndrome" (PAS). And the situation would be addressed immediately--either visitation would be enforced by the courts or the mother would lose custody all together. But I digress.

So no visitation from May to the present. But this actually was a minor issue as far as the court was concerned.

No, once again our major concern was Claudine's political activity. The players in Shawnee County are very upset with how well known this case has become (my last blog posting on this case had readers as far away as Australia.) And they are blaming Claudine for all of it, even though when pushed, Judge DAVID DEBENHEIM fiercely denied that he was trying to "stomp" on Claudine's first amendment rights. (Huh. Could have fooled me.)

But even in cases where OTHER bloggers like Nancy Carroll at Rights for Mothers had discussed this case (http://rightsformothers.com/), Claudine was blamed. In fact, the opposing attorney submitted into evidence printouts from NANCY's blog to show that Claudine was out of compliance with their gag order. Message to the Hoffmans: Nancy is not Claudine. I'm not Claudine either, for that matter. And you can't shut us up.

And honestly, did the Hoffmans really have to embarrass their employee like that? They trotted out a young and painfully ignorant employee of theirs to "testify" about Claudine's "alleged" facebook and twitter activities. This fresh-faced young woman--no more than a high school graduate with a few "computer" classes--earnestly told us that every posting and link on somebody's facebook page had to personally "approved" and/or "posted" by that person. Yes, dear friends. She did say that. And meant it too, so far as I can tell. I won't give her name, though it's in my notes. I refuse to further humilate her. But honestly, your great aunt Rose probably knows more about facebook than this girl.

So the significance of this was what? There are supposedly "references" to her case on Claudine's facebook page! Oh the horror! And you know what? This blog may very well end up with a link on Claudine's facebook page, too--through an automatic feed mechanism. It will go straight to facebook--even when Claudine is sleeping or brushing her teeth. Or sitting in court. Because you know what? Claudine is a well networked activist with probably hundreds of facebook friends working on issues related to child abuse, domestic violence, human rights, and family court reform. Many of us have discussed this case before. Just as we have discussed many other cases like this one, where the courts have backed up the abuser and shut out or ignored the protective mother. And for your information, you'll find articles and links about those cases as well.

And all this policing of Claudine's personal and political activities on the internet is particularly hypocritical when you consider the following: Attorney JASON P. HOFFMAN and GAL JILL DYKES had no qualms about violating professional ethical boundaries and becoming facebook "friends" with this child! (I saw the screen shots.) Mom can't even post a photo of her daughter per court order, but these folks feel free to do as they like. Not that the judge was interested in this matter at all. Big surprise there.

And this is the crux of the matter. What the court in Shawnee County REALLY doesn't like is that--as they put it--this lady "has a cause." Or she has "become a cause." They don't like the "venom" (i.e. the truth) that has come out about this case, and the attention it has received nationally and even internationally. They don't even like Claudine's facial expressions! (Yes, the judge made a point of addressing this. "You are your own worst enemy!" he thundered at Claudine--apparently over some grimace or frown that I didn't see.)

So make sure you never show anything but a happy face in front of Judge Debenham, even when you are possibly losing all contact with your only child!

Claudine is supposed to hear later this afternoon what the court's decision is--after her daughter will presumably be allowed to speak her mind with the judge. But of course, she can't really speak her mind--not as long as she's a minor and dependent on her father.

We are not optimistic as to the outcome.

But you know what? In a little over two years, this girl ages out of the system's control over her life. Perhaps then, real change will come about.

Abusers and their enablers often win the battles. But they seldom win the war. That puts off any real healing in this case for another two years.

But at least it's something to hope for.

Continue reading at NowPublic.com: Sham in Shawnee County (Topeka, Kansas) | NowPublic News Coverage http://www.nowpublic.com/world/sham-shawnee-county-topeka-kansas#ixzz1CN6yB4FW


Claudine Dombrowski and the love for her Daughter Rikki Dombrowski – Fly High Fly Free--- they can not chain the wind, no matter how hard they try.


Did Maui Judge Tanaka Give Baby to Abuser Contrary to Law?

Courtesy AngelGroup

A domestic violence survivor, Maria Styke-Marquez, appears alone in Judge Keith Tanaka's Second Circuit courtroom where, according to documents filed by the perpetrator's attorney, Mimi DeJardins, the judge will grant her abuser's request to permanently relocate to Minnesota with the former couple's 2 1/2 year-old daughter, removing her not only from the island of her birth, but from her mother.

The child's father, Bruce Anthony Sotelo Jr., was convicted and held in jail for beating a pregnant Ms. Styke-Marquez so severely in 2007 that the 4 month-old baby she was carrying may have died as a result of the attack that left Ms. Styke-Marquez with a concussion, broken ribs, cracked teeth, a split lip and contusions.

Hawaii State Statute 571-46(9) perpetrators of family violence are not candidates for custody of their children, yet in September, Judge Tanaka ruled to give full physical/legal custody of the little girl to the man who put her mother in the hospital. Is that contrary to statute? Not if facts support the ruling.

Financially devastated from the litigation her abuser has put her through, Ms. Styke-Marquez, unable to afford an attorney, walked into the courtroom alone to face her abuser (who as recently as November 19th has a criminal contempt charge lodged against him), his attorney (who is also a Per Diem judge) and a judge who has already ruled against he. "My last and only hope to save my daughter is to call public attention to what's going on and I'm not the only one this is happening to - I know so many other domestic violence survivors who have lost custody of their

children to their perpetrators as well which only tells me that this is no small problem. I'm a protective parent, not a perfect one, and never tried to keep our daughter from her father so I can't understand how this is being allowed to happen" says Ms. Styke-Marquez.

She reportedly collapsed in courtroom, and was transported to hospital and the hearing continued without her.

Final outcome of the hearing is at this time, unknown. But words from the Judiciary allege factual mistakes and erroneous statements of law by Angels.


-1#4 mia kai 2011-01-23 21:13

Tanaka allowed him to move so he can live with his parents rent free and work as a food server for 7.25 an hour when as a nurse i can make 35.00 an hour, how does that make sense? and for him to rip her away from her mother who nursed on MY breasts, and took care of her better than they ever can????? My question to Tanaka is, What happened to you? What happened in your marriage or your high school love, some woman must have hurt you extremely bad and it must have been with children or you just know the way to get back at them or hurt the woman who has hurt you is through their children, because you men all know that our hearts mend after leaving you, actually our life's our better without you men in em.....so you men see this and know the only way to truly beat us once again is through our children! I'm considering having an investigation done on Tanaka to see about the women in his past and to see who he was abusive to? Tanaka is to evil you can see it in his eyes, beetle eyes- hatred


-1#3 mia kai 2011-01-23 21:05

I have filed asking for a "New trial and or alternative reconsideration on his decision, but we all know he will deny this, I had filed an emergency stay on 12-30-10 and he put it on the calender for 1-26-11 at 1:30pm but still allowed for my angel to be moved to the mainland without even saying goodbye to her primary attachment "me- her mother"... How can "paradise" be so corrupted? Bruce may have beat me and terminated my pregnancy, and I dealt with that by leaving him and living my life for my then 5 month pregnancy (I was 5 months prego when he started to push me again, so I kicked him out for good) and then I had my precious angel Malie alone in the hospital and raised her by myself working as a nurse and then he wants to take take her from me because he seen I picked up and was living well without him and plus they upped his CS from $50.00 a month to $780.00 a month, this is when his mother stepped in and said her son will not give me that money and they hired Desjardins


-1#2 mia kai 2011-01-23 20:50

YES this BEAST of a Judge did give my precious angel to my abuser. When I had filed for a pre-trial before my trial to ask for a "custody evaluator and a GAL appointed, he denied it, and during the trial in the beginning I asked for him to reconsider because this would be a "traumatic life changing experience to be separated across the ocean from her mother" and he the BEAST stated "well you just declared yourself to be indigent so how are you going to pay for one?" I said, I am a mother,a protective mother at that and this is my precious little babies life we are talking about, I'm positive given the opportunity to be evaluated I will find the monies to pay for one". He said NO!!!!!!! and allowed my abuser and to the abuser's own flesh and blood to move to the mainland... Tanaka, on the bench stated "Ms. Styke I know you are a fit and loving parent" but b cuz i had to call the police 14 times for custodial interference I was at fault and he said I was putting my daughter in harms way.


-4#1 valeriemaui 2010-12-04 17:19

Tanaka needs a seat not one on the bench! aeeed


Parental Alienation: It's About More Than "A Uterus, Divorce Papers and Bruises" Cathy Meyer Certified Divorce Coach, Marriage Educator and Legal Investigator

and a complete sock puppet to the whores of the court Dr. William Bernet, Dr. Richard Warshak, Dr. Richard Gardner.

.huffingtonpost.com/cathy-meyer/parental-alienation-its-a_b_807641 . html



A recent study showed that 49% of Statistics are made up -- 'on the spot'.
as per your quoted: "Judith Ray, a licensed family therapist in Colorado Springs."- name your reference.

APA: The Evidentiar­y Admissibil­ity of Parental Alienation Syndrome: American Psychiatri­c Associatio­n http://www­.apa.org/p­i/pii/fami­lyvio/issu­e5.html
Evidence shows that women who raise concerns about family violence during custody litigation run the risk of losing their children to the bogus pseudo-non scientific PAS.
PAS only exists among men who have battered the mother and seek to further 'control' and 'punish' the mother for leaving. http://bit­.ly/cYjXEg
Domestic Violence (DV) by Proxy: Why Terrorist Tactics Employed by Batterers Are Not "PAS"
There is valid research legal and psychiatri­c just to mention a scant few of the many: the American District Attorneys Associatio­n, The National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges: Judicial Guide to Child Safety in Custody Cases. http://www­.ncjfcj.or­g/images/s­tories/dep­t/fvd/pdf/­judicial%20guide.p­df
A very dangerous article- this gets people killed. Sadly, they are the domestic violence victims and or their children. http://bit­.ly/9yYhlB


It once again seems that as in your article you do not separate PAS allegation­s and Domestic Violence. You lump then into one. It is wrong to dismiss domestic violence so nonchalant­ly.
Have read Dr Evan Starks 'Coercive Control" part of the book is on Google Books here is a intro to his book http://bit­.ly/fp1Pqh
The Civic Research Institute ( A Law Center) has also addressed this most recently in Domestic Violence, Abuse and Child Custody http://www­.civicrese­archinstit­ute.com/dv­ac.html


One of Dr. William Bernet's criteria is a child be an "independe­nt thinker." OMG, as a child who watched my mother get beat all the time, and not liking my father for it, which I independen­tly thought of myself, I am appalled!



There is a problem with the author's analysis of domestic violence (DV) and its connection with PAS. It is shortsight­ed to say that the victim of DV has only an individual justificat­ion to limit a batterer's contact with the victim and not with the children.

Check any domestic violence research and you will find that DV is learned behavior. Allowing a batterer unfettered contact with the children condones the abuser's conduct and sends a message to the children to accept the abuser's conduct as being permissible and normal.

As an attorney with over 30 years experience in the field of family law, I would expect at a minimum that an adult batterer in a child custody case participat­e in anger management treatment and some form of family systems counseling to ensure that the children will not be replicatin­g the abusive cycle in their future adult relationsh­ips.



The Children's Legal Rights Journal has an excellent piece on evidentiar­y admissibil­ity of "PAS"



What is the reference for the statistic that PAS is 50-50? Somebody's word is not evidence. That's shoddy journalism­. It's nowhere in the literature­, while the fact that it's used against women in the majority of cases is.
Where is the background material on the FAthers Rights Movement - most consider them a backlash group to women's gains (antifemin­ist)- even scholarly writings.
This blog post is using NOW as a punching bag despite the fact that legal, medical and psychologi­cal organizati­ons have all discredite­d PAS.
Is NOW easier to attack? Easier to gain proponents­? That would be shame to use this tactic rather than the scientific merits of a so-called pschologic­al diagnosis.



The man who created PAS was badly discredite­d and publicly shamed when his exaggerati­ons about his credential­s and his methods were exposed. Sad to say, he died a violent death at his own hands - a knife plunged into his throat and heart - and there are those who believe he suffered from a debillitat­ing and incurable painful illness, while others connect it to the profession­al and public shame he began to experience­. He made a great deal of money testifying in court, more often hired by attorneys representi­ng the father. Most of his work in identifyin­g "PAS" was based on the mother's behavior. In fact, most of his research was based on mother-per­petrated parental alienation­. It was not only individual­s, but gender-inc­lusive profession­al groups that declared his work to have no merit - including the American Psychologi­cal Associatio­n.
All in all, the behavior of trying to influence children not to freely love the other parent is despicable­. However, basing it on the work of Richard Gardner is like making apple pie out of rotten, worm-ridde­n apples. We've really got to look at gender-neu­tral, individual behaviors, rather than bashing advocacy movements like NOW and the Father's Rights groups. That just isn't productive­. Helping individual­s, however, is very productive­.




And sadly experts have all agreed that there are many misdiagnos­is of Borderlin­e - in which BPD is being mistaken for PTSD. And quite simply the best way to cure PTSD is to remove the trauma. For many abused mothers it is recurring trauma to be forced to send her children to an abusive man. One need only look at recent headlines (http://das­tardlydads­.blogspot.­com) to realize that many many more men are hurting women and children than women hurting men and children. And it is really sad that a person's right to be free from abuse is trumped by a parents right to have a relationsh­ip with a child. I have passed along the posts made concerning this to a blogger who exposes female (mother) hatred and she has assured me that a post will be forthcomin­g.


Cathy, the American Judges Associatio­n, the American Bar Associatio­n, the National District Attorney's Associatio­n and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges have all debunked "PAS" with the latter warning family court judges the last couple of years not to accept claims of "parental alienation syndrome" or "parental alienation­" because of its well know use by abusers to get child custody from their victims. This is their words directly in their judge's guide. It is horrific to have children go to a mother's abuser. I had it happen to me as a child, and again as a mother. It is a popular legal tool of abuse that is happening frequently­. A conservati­ve estimate of 58,000 children a year are given to abusers was released last year. Also, the American Bar Associatio­n on their website dealing with domestic violence and child custody said in their research, they found that among false allegation­s, fathers were far more likely to use false allegation­s vs. mothers (21% versus 1.3%). They indicated in this document that claims of "parental alienation­" from abusers were definitely a problem and they were getting custody of children with this favorite legal tool of abuse. This all comes not from a child and a mother who has suffered at the hands of an abuser getting custody, but from many profession­al organizati­ons seeing victims of abuse losing their children because of the psych's running wild through the courts, making lots of $$$ doing this.


"I am more interested in protecting a child from the harm parental alienation does than protecting a few women who have suffered abuse. Especially since it would seem, the children are being abused by PAS at a higher rate than women are being abuse by a husband."

A few moms who have suffered 'abuse'??? 1-3 women will experience domestic violence in their life times.
How many of those 3 have children?

The leading cause of death to pregnant women is intimate partner violencehttp://bit­.ly/fpD4l4 WOW!!! How many women get pregnant?
This is truly scary on its own with out the 'control' of yet one more thing PAS, HAP or any other buzz word for leniency and dismal of physical crimes against persons. a Felony unless of course the victim is is your wife. then it becomes 'domestic'­ barely a misdemeano­r.

We as a society really do not care about our children to allow their mothers to be killed and their children taken when they do try to leave.



Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women 18-24. At least 3 women die every day. In family court, estimates run high for domestic violence since family court is "the place" for high conflict and abuse.

Use of the term PAS does not only punish and harm women - it harms children. A study done by Harvard's Jay Silverman found that about 54% of cases involving child sexual abuse, a counter of PAS was used.
When any allegation of abuse in used in court - DV, child abuse, or child sexual abuse - PA can be used to counter the claim.

The web site on the Nat'l District Attorney's Associatio­n says PA harms abused children.

It would either be disingenuous or biased to say there is no harm to children from the misuse of PA.

Furthermor­e, NOW is a convenient punching bag - far more legal, scientific and psychologi­cal associatio­ns have warned against the use of PA.

The Women in Pschycolog­y web site lists several mental health claims that are biased towards women, including PA - - why weren't they attacked? Way too easy to attack NOW and not fair to readers to ignore all the organizati­ons that discredit PAS.


So the American Judges Associatio­n, American Bar Associatio­n, the National District Attorney's Associatio­n and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges are hate groups? They have all debunked the use of "parental alienation­" in courts because of it's well known use by abusers in court. Do children get lied to and do parents behave badly? Yes, they do, but children aren't that guilable. One of the criteria in Dr. William Bernet's definition of "parental alienation disorder" is that a child is an "independe­nt thinker." Come on...as a child victim given to an abuser, I am appalled by this.


Parental Alienation: It Is About "A Uterus, Divorce Papers and Bruises"

Cathy Meyer of the Huffington Post  – a pro abuser and pro pedophile used the title

Parental Alienation: It's About More Than "A Uterus, Divorce Papers and Bruises"

to once again Diminish Domestic Violence, protect the abusers, and pom-mom ra-ra for the psycho quacks like Dr. Richard Warshak who make a profit pushing this dangerous child and mother killing yet highly profitable ‘theory’  —

Sadly after the few articles that are factual in content get published as with below article – and Cathy Meyer -- in response to –  article as titled above--as is the trend with mainstream media. http://huff.to/dXUDKG -- Huff post really goes all out to protect these abusers, pedophiles and killers. HuffPo should be disgraced—but they are not.

So Cathy Meyer and HuffPo --here’s to you and your inept journalistic skills—fortunately there are other and better bloggers.

Parental Alienation and Domestic Violence

by Joan Dawson


“I hope there’s more cases just like this, where people don’t want to let their spouses see their kids…I hope it happens more and more, until the law finally says you know what? There needs to be something done so these parents can be with their kids.”

These were the words fired by Randall Todd Moore as he denied having “not one ounce of remorse” for kidnapping, sexually assaulting and killing his ex-wife.

But was his ex-wife ‘alienating’ the kids, as Moore alleged, or trying to protect them from danger?

This case is clear, but as those working in domestic violence and child abuse realize, all too often clarity comes at a price.

Parental alienation (PA, or PAS for Parental Alienation Syndrome), a topic pro-PA psychologist Richard Warshak recently covered on Huffington Post, alleges a parent poisons the mind of a child to fear or hate the other parent. The defamation results in a damaged relationship or estrangement.

Those opposing parental alienation admit parents can bad-mouth the other parent either deliberately or inadvertently; however, factors such as poor parenting skills or personality on the part of the mother or father and stages of normal development or reactions to divorce on the part of the child can also cause alienating behaviors.

Dr. Paul Fink, President of the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence, and a former President of the American Psychiatric Association states, “Science tells us that the most likely reason that a child becomes estranged from a parent is that parent’s own behavior. Labels, such as PAS, serve to deflect attention away from those behaviors.”

More dangerously, parental alienation can mask domestic violence, child abuse and child sexual abuse. What is the difference between fearful or uncooperative battered women and alienating,” vindictive” mothers? If parents try to withhold access to children, are they alienators or protectors? If they try to provide evidence of abuse – interviews with psychologists, medical examinations or discussions with the child – are they gathering proof or further alienating the ex? What is the difference between alienated children and abused children?

The behaviors can be indistinguishable.

Indeed, it’s not just domestic violence survivors’ advocates who witness the problem with PA. The American Bar Association, American Prosecutors Research Institute, National District Attorneys Association, and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges all denounce the use of parental alienation in the courtroom. The National District Attorneys Association says on their Web site, “PAS is an unproven theory that can threaten the integrity of the criminal justice system and the safety of abused children.”

That hasn’t stopped courts from using PAS, resulting in accusations against individuals, mostly women, of maliciously denying access to children.

Katie Tagle, for instance, sought a restraining order on Jan. 21, 2010 against her ex-boyfriend Stephen Garcia to stop him from having unsupervised visitation with their nine-month-old child.

She told the judge Garcia threatened to kill the infant. The court transcript records Judge Robert Lemkau as saying, “One of you is lying,” and later, “Mr. Garcia claims its total fabrication on your part.” Garcia also referred to it as “little stunts and games” that she used to deny him access to his son.

Even when she tries to produce evidence of the threats, he says, “Well, ma’am, there’s a real dispute about whether that’s even true or not.” And finally, “My suspicion is that you’re lying” (said twice). He denied her the order (as did two other judges). Garcia took their son that day and drove off into the mountains. Ten days later, they were both found dead.
The transcript is here: http://www.scribd.com/doc/26434649/tagle-garcia-court-transcript-dent-protection-to-baby-now-bay-is-DEAD

This case clearly demonstrates another issue women have in courts: credibility. It’s easier to believe a woman is lying than to believe a man can abuse or kill a woman or child. In reality, in family court, denying abuse is more common than fabricating tales of abuse. Most allegations are made in good faith (see the American Bar Association’s 10 Custody Myths and How to Counter Them). And most denials are made by perpetrators, perpetrators skillful at manipulation – even of professionals.

Indeed, we must not forget family court is the place for couples with high conflict and abuse. The overwhelming majority (up to 90%) of couples create their own parenting plans. Those that cannot, go to family court.

Judges, though, have been known to downplay even well-documented cases of abuse and to give more weight to parental alienation than to abuse allegations. In the case of Jennifer Collins, for example, the judge told her mother to “get over” the abuse as at least two years had passed, according to Collins’ Web site. The judge reversed the custody decision because her mom’s fear was “interfering in his relationship with us.” Jennifer’s mother Holly took her two children and fled to the Netherlands, where they were granted asylum. (See also the Courageous Kids Network of children who were court-ordered into relationships with abusive parents.)

58,000 children a year go into sole or joint custody arrangements or unsupervised visitation with physically or sexually abusive parents, according to an estimate by the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence. That’s over 1,000 children a week the courts place in harm’s way.

Giving custody to the supposedly alienated parent is one way to “solve” the problem of parental alienation. Jailing the mother is another.

Tiffany Barney and Joyce Murphy are two women who’ve been jailed; their cases were covered in the media. Both alleged child sexual abuse and neither were believed. Barney fought for five years, at times losing custody or having limited supervised visitation. Murphy was called “toxic” to her daughter and deemed the cause of the child fearing her father. She fled with her daughter. When found, she was jailed for felony abduction and later granted limited visitation. It wasn’t until three more girls came forward with molestation charges that her ex was finally the one jailed.

A few other cases making headlines include: Court Punishes Woman in Alienation Case; WI: Judge Jails Mother over Daughter’s Refusal to Visit Father and Judge Dismisses Abuse Allegations.

To sum it up, any behavior that does not promote access to children can be classified as parental alienation and punished with jail time or limits on/loss of custody. With this threat, parents are less likely to report abuse and more likely to share custody with an abuser.

It should also be noted that when violent partners make good on their threats to take the kids away, it’s referred to as domestic violence by proxy -a continuation of domestic violence – rather than PA or PAS. Some battered women who’ve lost custody use PA or PAS to describe their particular situation. This both minimizes the nature and scope of abuse women face and promotes the use of a dangerous weapon (PA/PAS) that can be used against them in court.

I wouldn’t hand an angry man a gun, nor would I readily hand over a legal strategy to potential pedophiles, abusers or killers. Yet that is exactly what PA/PAS is doing.

For more information, visit:

The Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence

Stop Family Violence

Center for Judicial Excellence

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AMPP is a social movement seeking justice and accountability within the family court system which includes DHHS/CPS, psychologists and other so called experts.

  • We as mothers demand CITIZENSHIP and our Rights to our Children.
  • We demand that our children not be used as pawns by our abuser in a custody dispute.
  • We demand that Mothers and Children be equally protected against court ordered visitation with an abuser.
  • We demand that Mothers and Children be given the same rights, privileges and voice that the abuser gets in family courts!
  • We demand that our President take action now as can no longer afford to be silent and we won’t.
  • We demand the same "rights and freedoms" to which all humans are entitled.

Behind the closed doors of the dirty little secret of the family court system, thousands of women each year lose child custody to violent men who beat and abuse Mothers and Children.

Family courts are not family-friendly and betray the best interests of the child.

Until Mothers and Children's voices are heard we will never shut up, give up or go away!


Kansas Foster Care Legal Child Trafficking System—who REALLY profits? -- GAL’s, MHP’s, and other FOC’s like Rene M Netherton, M. Jill Dykes, Scott McKenzie et el

At which time then tax payers can become outraged and start trimming the PORK of the legal court child trafficking ring.


Lets connect some more dots---- this article was pulled from Cjonline 2001


Topeka Capital-Journal, The, Jul 23, 2001 by Capital-Journal

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      K A N S A S'  F O S T E R  C A R E  S Y S T E M

      Some say privatized foster care is broken --- or never worked. The governor and Legislature had better deal with it.

      Rene Netherton once filed a class action lawsuit against the state because she believed the state Department of Social and Rehabilitation Services wasn't doing its job to care for abused and neglected kids. [[[actually she had her OWN interests in mind but we will get to that]]]]

      Now, after yet another private foster-care contractor has had financial problems, [[[ EEEK oh no more money for Rene M Netherton oh my, oh my!!! ]]]  she wishes more than anything that SRS would get back its old responsibility for kids.

      Privatization of the state's foster care system, says the Topeka attorney, "has never worked" since its inception in 1997. All it did, she says, was add another layer of bureaucracy, [[ didn't work out quite the way you thought it would did it Rene? ]]  in the private sector, that is sopping up money [[[ and Rene and her ilk got left out of the pig feeding frenzy ]]] that could have trickled down to services for children.

      "It doesn't take a rocket scientist to tell you've got to get rid of the middleman," she says.

      [[[ hahahaha--only a destitute court whore who is running out of her money pits time to set up a new legal child trafficking ring ]]]]

      [[[ MIDDLEMAN? you mean court whores like yourself? GAL’s, Guardian ad litems-- like Rene M Netherton—who now PRIVATELY screw parents out of their children—for this blog--- battered mommies to give to abusers--- after all-- ‘all [her] my rich male clients’ ]]] See her facebook ( Rene M Netherton GAL Everyone's favorite Court—opps actually JUST WHORE)

      Netherton's strong stance is a statement about the lack of effectiveness of privatization: Here's a woman [[[ ha a court whore by all accounts looking out ONLY for HER best interest—not the child ]]]] who, as a child advocate, [[[ SELF ADVOCATE—it’s monetary—it ALL about the money always has been always will be ]]] once went to court against SRS. Now she's saying SRS is the agency for the job.

      [[[[ hmmmm sounds like she goes where ever SHE is best positioned to make a profit ]]]]]]

      Why? [[[ SEE ABOVE STATEMENT ]]]] Well, besides the added layer of bureaucracy [[[ this is what FOC’s, MHP’s, GAL’s  do—THEY add another layer of PAID bureaucracy for PROFIT ]]] that privatization has brought, she says she never had a problem with the SRS workers in the trenches in the first place.

      [[[[ because she got paid for manipulating the children the parents the MHP’s—ex-parte—and setting up falsify case's fraudulently for her and others own personal gain ]]]]]

      In addition, she says SRS has "changed immensely[[[[ Now its NOT so profitable as the private contractors are having FINANCIAL problems of their own--- NO MONEY for Rene M Netherton and her ilk ]]]] since she brought suit against it in 1989. "SRS has their stuff together for children now." [[[ YES, NOW  they have the PROFIT MARGIN—right Rene? ]]]

      Shawnee County District Judge Daniel Mitchell [[[[ the ONLY Juvenile Judge in Shawnee County—has a working relationship with his court whore’s, eerrr…..GAL’s,  like Rene M Netherton—every thing THEY say—JUDGE DOES—this is true with ALL Judges— ]]]

      [[[[[  the GAL is the judge no court room needed—no due process is allowed—without evidence—only one-sided opinion of one—GAL--(that btw--  the parent of said child that is being hammered for the profit of their children DOES NOT HAVE TRHE RIGHT under supreme court Rule 100 to even see what the report of the GAL is.—They are also  IMMUNE from accountability and prosecution—which they flaunt openly  ]]]]  won't stump for either SRS or privatization. But he agrees with Netherton that SRS has improved --- "I think SRS is better now than it's been for some time," he says --- and that the state has only sown the seeds of another bureaucracy with privatization: "You've added another level of people in the case." [[ see he cant even come up with his quotes isnt that what the above child trafficker stated ]]



      KS Foster care was privatized after this.. SEE below--- it never went to court it was settled-- I notice they have Judge Buchle-- the same judge that did  the Dombrowski divorce from hell to begin with and his order to force Claudine back or loose custody of my child—which Rene M Netherton was a part of. DOCUMENTS HERE

      it was upheld on two appeals and two petition for reviews to state supreme court denied.

      when the 2nd appeal was remanded year 2000 (due to more falsifying of records)--- judge Buchle then left the bench (as he DOMBROWSKI CASE had been holding him up from) and took his seat on the appeals court.

      any ways this is what she (Rene M Netherton) is known for-- since then she has become a big foster care profiteer working with orgs to 'adopt' out foster children.

      The move in the past decade has been to make it non-privatized as to many contractors have been making money by keeping these kids in foster care. Even the Joint committee on children's issues has at least acknowledged this-- a year ago-- but have yet to change it-- as to many of the legislatures who chair and are on the committee are a part of some of these 'orgs' that are privatized.

      Its not illegal-- its not about a money trail. It may be at best immoral but being that it is legal they can do this.

      This is what they 'fear', exposure. WE expose Rene as she relates to the DOMBROWSKI case here. She [ Rene Netherton] 'fears' this. As do all in positions that make profit-- shady as it may be-- its not illegal- so the money they are paid with are tax $ take it to we the people-- the tax payers for exposure...

      at which time then tax payers can become outraged and start trimming the pork of the legal court child trafficking ring.


      Sheila A. v. Whiteman

      (also known as Sheila A. v. Finney, Sheila A. v. Haden, and J.D.B. v. Barton)


      No. 89-CV-33 (Dist. Ct. of Shawnee, Kansas, Division 4, Sept. 1, 1990)


      253 Kan. 793, 861 P.2d 120 (Kan. 1993); 259 Kan. 549, 913 P.2d 181 (Kan. 1996)




      Marcia Robinson Lowry

      Children's Rights, Inc. (well known for FATHERS RIGHTS as is CPS)

      330 Seventh Avenue, Fourth Floor

      New York, NY 10001

      (212) 683-2210

      Fax: (212) 683-4015


      Rene Netherton

      1603 SW 37th Street

      Topeka, KS 66611

      (785) 267-6767

      Fax: (785) 267-6768

      Shook, Hardy & Bacon

      84 Corporate Woods

      10801 Mastin, Suite 1000

      Overland Park, KS 66210

      (913) 451-6060

      Fax: (913) 451-8879

      Jerry Palmer

      Palmer, Leatherman & White LLP

      627 SW Topeka Boulevard

      Topeka, KS 66603

      (785) 233-1836

      Fax: (785) 233-3703



      Plaintiffs alleged that the Kansas child welfare system violated Title IV-E, the federal Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA), the Federal Due Process Clause, the Kansas Code for Care of Children, and the Kansas Constitution. The Kansas system had a number of serious deficiencies and had the highest recidivism in the country, with children who had been in foster care and were returned to their parents often returning to the system.


      In January 1989, a Topeka child guardian filed a class action suit (J.D.B. v. Barton) against the Kansas Department of Social and Rehabilitation Services (SRS) that focused on lack of adequate placements for children entering foster care. The ACLU Children's Rights Project entered the lawsuit in September 1989 by filing a motion to amend, which added the governor as a defendant and additional named plaintiffs from throughout the state.

      Plaintiffs' motion for class certification was granted, and SRS's motion to dismiss was denied. The lower court held that Kansas children can (1) enforce provisions of Title IV-E in Kansas state court; (2) seek judicial relief under CAPTA, which requires states to respond to reports of suspected abuse or neglect in a timely and adequate manner; and (3) seek relief for violations of the provisions of the Kansas Code for Children.

      In June 1992, defendants filed a motion to dismiss plaintiffs' Title IV-E claims, based on Suter v. Artist M. The motion was granted in October 1992. Defendant Governor Finney filed a motion to dismiss or for summary judgment on June 15, 1992, which was granted on August 20, 1992. Plaintiffs appealed.

      While the appeal was pending, the parties reached a settlement agreement in June 1993. The settlement agreement mandated wholesale changes in the Kansas child welfare system. Implementation of reforms under the settlement began on January 1, 1994. Pursuant to the agreement, an internal departmental quality assurance unit was established to assess compliance and an independent state auditing agency, the Legislative Division of Post Audit, also was charged with conducting ongoing performance audits assessing the Department's compliance with the agreement.

      On April 24, 1997, a motion to change the judge was filed. On April 29, 1997, Judge Buchele removed himself from the case. The new judge, Judge Yeoman, appointed a Special Task Force "to facilitate resolution of foster care issues in Kansas."

      Because of the State's success in implementing the settlement agreement, the state exited from the agreement on June 30, 2002. SRS and plaintiffs agreed to replace the settlement agreement with internal monitoring from SRS's Quality Assurance Unit. The Unit is responsible for overseeing the quality of SRS's supervision of children.



      Social and Rehabilitation Services History


      Domestic Violence Survivor Mother-- Wins lottery, takes kids and goes underground.RUN HOLLY RUN!!

      Abuser of course—doesn't want kids—atm—just the money!!

      Holly you go girl!! Dont look back and you and your children live life!!!~! Free!!! Hooray!

      Mystery Surrounds Mega Millions Winner


      Jan 22, 2011 – 4:35 PM

      Nicholas K. Geranios


      RATHDRUM, Idaho - Holly Lahti burst into the spotlight a week ago in a feel-good story about a single mother who won a $190 million Mega Millions jackpot.

      Then came the mugshot: a thin young woman with disheveled brown hair, sporting a black eye and cuts and bruises on her face and neck. It turned out she was separated from a man who court records indicated had abused her, and now has a possible claim to some of the money through a quirk in Idaho law.

      Holly Lahti who recently won the $190 million Mega Millions jackpot.


      Holly Lahti, shown here in a 2003 mugshot, has been in hiding since she won a $190 million Mega Millions jackpot. Lahti is separated from her husband, who court records indicate had abused her.

      Lahti, 29, went underground with her two daughters immediately after learning she had won half of a $380 million jackpot in the Jan. 4 drawing. She has not been seen or heard in public since.

      The mugshot was taken after Lahti and her husband, Josh Lahti, both were arrested during a domestic dispute in 2003. The charges were later dropped, and the couple has long been separated.

      Josh Lahti said he did not know Holly had won the lottery until told by a reporter from The Associated Press last week.

      "That's awesome! I won't have to pay child support!" he said upon learning his wife was rich.

      As it turns out, the husband could be entitled to a chunk of the winnings because he and Lahti never divorced and were never legally separated for that matter. Idaho's murky law on the issue requires a divorce filing to grant separation, which is a key factor in splitting up assets between spouses.

      While the lawyers sort out the issue in the months ahead, Holly Lahti can rejoice in the fact that her troubled past has given way to riches beyond her wildest dreams.

      She quit her job as a customer service representative for a bank after winning the jackpot, then she asked family and friends not to talk with reporters. She did not appear at the Jan. 12 press conference in Boise in which her good fortune was revealed.

      In a brief telephone interview, Josh Lahti said the two started dating in high school and got married in 2001.

      Holly Lahti still lives in the couple's home in Rathdrum, a town in the Idaho Panhandle. Josh Lahti said he sees his daughters, age 12 and 10, most days.

      Her friends are upset at all the attention paid to the decade-old mugshot, and say it does not reflect the devoted and hardworking young mother who has moved on from a troubled marriage.

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        • "She is kind. She is friendly. She is shy," said Jennifer Mayberry, who has lived in the same neighborhood for a decade. "My children play with her children."

          Lahti opted Friday to collect her jackpot in a lump-sum payment, instead of annual payments over 25 years. She will get $120 million, which will be reduced to $80.6 million by federal and state taxes.

          It will be a dramatic change for a woman who by all indications appeared to be of limited means.

          A search of public records revealed that she grew up in California and moved with her parents to Rathdrum, where she graduated from high school. Her marriage appears to have included some violence.

          Holly Lahti was arrested and charged with battery in 2003 in Kootenai County, but the prosecutor eventually dismissed the charges. Her husband was arrested on the same charge the same day, and those charges were also dismissed.

          In 2003, Josh Lahti was arrested for violating a no-contact order, and that charge was dismissed. He was also charged with second-degree kidnapping, possession of drug paraphernalia, domestic abuse, battery and false imprisonment. All but the kidnapping were dismissed. He was sentenced to 180 days in jail and three years probation.

          In 2000, he was charged with domestic violence, but the charge was reduced to disturbing the peace. He was also cited in 2001 for failing to make child support payments.

          Does Josh Lahti have a claim to some of the money? A University of Idaho law professor said it is unclear.

          Nearly all other states except Idaho have laws that differentiate between separation and divorce, with division of assets clearly defined in each case, said Elizabeth Brandt, professor of family law. The Idaho statute muddles the concept of legal separation, and there is no clear case law on the issue.

          But while the lottery winnings are almost certainly community property, Josh Lahti should not expect a huge windfall, Brandt said.

          Holly Lahti can still file for divorce, and contend the winnings are all hers because the couple do not live together and do not support each other, Brandt said. A divorce does not automatically produce a 50-50 split of assets.

          Holly Lahti could also negotiate a settlement with her husband, she said.

          "I can't imagine he will have a significant claim to these earnings in the end," Brandt said.

          Another DADDY kills his Daughters

          Man kills two daughters, turns himself in

          Why does the media consistently miss in repoerting—if mommy had killed they would say MOTHER—when DADDY kills they say MAN-- wtf

          Sunday, January 23, 2011

          By Salis bin Perwaiz


          In a gory incident that shocked the city on Saturday, a man killed his two daughters and injured his wife and another daughter over suspicion about their character.

          Zameer Ali Bhutto, a former security guard at the Police Foundation, later surrendered himself to police.

          According to police, the man opened fire on his wife Habiba (45) over some domestic dispute in their house in the Sachal police limits.

          Their daughters Maria (22) and Dareesha (18) were killed in the firing when they came to rescue their mother. Besides Habiba, her daughter Farzana (19) also received serious injuries.

          In her statement to the police, Habiba said that she had married Bhutto in their hometown in Khairpur, and later they settled in the Sachal Goth area in Karachi.

          She gave birth to three daughters — Maria, Dareesha and Farzana. She said her husband worked as a security guard at the Police Foundation but he lost his job due to his character.

          According to Habiba, it was early on Saturday morning when her husband came to the house and seemed to be drunk. When she asked him for money to purchase household items, he got involved in an altercation with her.

          In the meantime, Bhutto allegedly took out his pistol and opened fire on his wife, and when their daughters came to save her, he also shot at them, injuring all of them. The man then fled from the scene.

          Upon hearing gunshots, residents of the area broke into their house and took the injured to hospital, Habiba added. Police said Maria and Dareesha succumbed to their injuries. Their sister Farzana received five bullet wounds and her condition was said to be critical.

          Maria taught children at a private school in the area while her sisters had been teaching children at home to earn their living.

          After three hours of the incident, Bhutto surrendered himself to the Sachal police and also handed over the murder weapon.

          During interrogation, he told the police that he had been jobless for the past few months and had heard bad things about his daughters. He said he was upset and developed doubts about the character of his daughters and wife.

          Police said that the accused also used to take drugs. A case has been registered and an investigation is continuing.


          Jennifer and Holly Collins Update: We found the visitation supervisor - Jim Seas!

          We found the visitation supervisor - Jim Seas!



          Hello Everyone, I am so excited to tell you that we found him! We found the visitation supervisor from Katahdin Inc!
          His name is James E. Seas from Minneapolis Minnesota.
          In all fairness I want to give Mr. Seas a chance to explain his side of the story.

          Maybe he was misdirected from someone from the family court & he was just doing his job.
          I want to thank everyone for you help. I can’t believe how fast this moved.
          At least I am one step closer to getting answers.