Grandmother spends time with her slain daughters child- Father Killed Mother

Carmen's mother visits toddler

http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/4651473/Carmens-mother-visits-toddler

Teresa Scott ... visited recently to spend time with her grandchild.

Carmen Thomas ... slain at 32.

Brad Callaghan ... appeared in court via a video link-up on Tuesday.

Carmen Thomas' grieving mother has made another trip to New Zealand to spend time with her slain daughter's child.

South African-based Teresa Scott visited her daughter's five-year-old son, Jack, in the days leading up to the latest court appearance of the man charged over her death.

Carmen's former partner and Jack's father, Brad Callaghan, was charged with murder in September, more than two months after she was reported missing.

Friends and family of Carmen, 32, revealed Scott's most recent visit to New Zealand on a Facebook tribute page to the young mum.

Her aunty, UK-based Carol Louise Lavagna, recently wrote: "Well Carmen your mum's off to see your little man – just making sure he's okay and also making sure he doesn't forget his good old gran.

"They are going to have a grand time and I'm sure they will be talking about you lots and making sure you are never forgotten xxx."

A friend, Gail Stewart, then wrote last week: "Hi Carmen ... I saw beautiful pictures of Jack ... he is the image of you ... you must be really proud of him ... he lookes [sic] so healthy and happy when he was with your Mam. xxxxxx."

Jack is being cared for by members of Callaghan's immediate family.

But Scott revealed on the Facebook page in September, just days after Callaghan's arrest, that she was determined to ensure Jack made his new home in South Africa.

She simply wrote: "Jack is coming home to us."

The boy has been taken to the remand wing of Auckland's Mt Eden Prison on several occasions to visit his father.

Callaghan became a father for the second time when his partner, Tanith Butler, gave birth to a baby boy just days before Carmen's remains were found in the Waitakere Ranges.

The 32-year-old appeared in the Auckland District Court via a video link-up to the remand centre at Mt Eden on Tuesday.

The structural engineer was further remanded in custody until April 12.

His lawyer, Stuart Grieve, QC, successfully argued for an extension of time before Callaghan has to make a plea as it would take a considerable amount of time to go through the items of evidence he had received from the prosecution in disclosure.

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The items include 19,000-plus A4 pages of documents, 20 photograph books, CDs and DVDs including bugged telephone calls and 132 formal briefs from prosecution witnesses.

Callaghan's family could not be reached for comment.

Custody Battle: Father Charged in stabbing deaths of his tow young sons

By George Mathis and Tim Eberly

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

http://www.ajc.com/news/gwinnett/father-charged-with-murder-836349.html

The father of two young boys stabbed to death in their home also stabbed himself and tried to blame the murders on the current boyfriend of the boys' mother, Gwinnett police said Saturday.

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Gwinnett County jailElvis Noe Garcia-Nelasco, 23, is charged with murder in the stabbing death of his two children.

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On Saturday, Elvis Noe Garcia-Nelasco, 23, was taken into custody and charged with murder in the Wednesday deaths of Bradley Garcia, 3, and Edward Garcia, 1.

Antonio Cardenas-Rico, 28, initially faced murder charges, but had them dropped once police attention shifted to Garcia-Nelasco. However, Cardenas-Rico remained inGwinnett County jail on drug charges. Both men are believed to be in the country illegally.

On Wednesday, police answered a 911 call at 1110 Bridle Path Drive in the Huntington Falls subdivision near Lawrenceville and found the badly wounded boys in a basement. A third boy, Bradley's twin, 3, was in critical condition, and was airlifted to Children's Healthcare of Atlanta. He remains in critical condition.

Garcia-Nelasco and his former girlfriend were fighting over custody of their three sons, according to police reports obtained Friday by The Atlanta Journal-Constitution.

The man, who had not legally established paternity, said he wouldn't return the sons to their mother because of his drug activity concerns involving her and her current boyfriend, Cardenas-Rico.

On Feb. 2, Garcia-Nelasco had approached Gwinnett Countypolice and filed a complaint that indicated Cardenas-Rico had threatened his life.

Following the stabbings, Garcia-Nelasco ran across the street and, referring to Cardenas-Rico, screamed at his neighbor, "He killed my children!" Suffering from stab wounds himself, Garcia-Nelasco was transported by ambulance to Gwinnett Medical Center.

The neighbor, Lewon Thomas, said Garcia-Nelasco entered his garage "with a hole in his chest," and talked to a 911 operator on a cellphone.

"He wanted me to go back and see what happened," said Thomas, who went to the house accompanied by another neighbor. "It was horrific."

When reached by phone Saturday, Thomas said he was "shocked" to learn that the man who came to him for help has now been charged with murder.

"Oh wow," he said. "That is so sad."

Thomas added that the news was "just disappointing." He said he never would have guessed that Garcia-Nelasco was lying to him about what happened.

"There was no indication whatsoever," he said. "That was the farthest thing from my thoughts."

Janelle Burrill- A Psychology Fraud Child Custody Evaluator Who got Caught- is still Stalking her Victims

EEK! I’M STILL BEING STALKED BY CALIFORNIA COURT WHORE JANELLE BURRILL

FILED IN: ACTIVISM, AMERICAN BOARD OF EXAMINERS, BAD CUSTODY EVALUATORS, CALIFORNIA, CHILD CUSTODY BATTLE, CHILD CUSTODY ISSUES, CHILD CUSTODY MEDIATION, CHILD CUSTODY FOR SALE, CHILD RAPE, CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE, CHILDREN WHO WITNESS ABUSE, CHILDREN'S RIGHTS, CORRUPT CUSTODY EVALUATORS, CORRUPT BASTARDS, JANELLE BURRILL, NONCUSTODIAL MOTHERS, PAS, PARENTAL ALIENATION DISORDER, PARENTAL ALIENATION DISORDERS, PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME, CHILD CUSTODY FOR ABUSERS, PARENTAL ALIENATION

Having helped form the “Victims of Janelle Burrill Support Group”, Janelle has been stalking the group and this site.  She or her representative misrepresented themselves as a victim and infiltrated the support group to gain information and further hurt her victims.  She allegedly scared theSacramento-area radio station that interviewed protesters that were speaking out against her.  She has been successful in have multiple people and websites gagged that were reporting on her activities and how they have affected many families, and more importantly children.  She had her board certification revoked almost a year ago because of how she has handled her affairs.  We all know from the California State audit of family courts how corruption has ruled when it has come to mediators, this is all an extension of it I would suppose.

Burrill has come from her computer desktop again, collecting files from this website, including information from the radio station who conducted interviews with protesters last year.  She even downloaded a picture of Karen Anderson of the California Protective Parents Association as she stood in front of the U.S. Department of Justice in Washington D.C. last October in another protest.  Karen was one of the mothers featured in “Mothers Interrupted“, a news story about how Janelle Burrill destroyed five families (just five of many).   Her favorite tool of legal abuse is the so-called “parental alienation syndrome.”  The California Department of Consumer Affairs and the California Department of Justice, who have been investigating Burrill, need to know that she is continuing to stalk her victims.  Here is what she was doing last night on this website…I don’t know who comes to this website unless they come from a company or an agency, like a certain visitor from the Executive Office of the President USA.  But Janelle Burrill was easy to tell…she is actually coming from her desktop on her computer.

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It’s All About the Power and Control, I Mean the Kids Part 1 (of Likely 3)

It’s All About the Power and Control, I Mean the Kids

Everyday we all hear about or read about divorcing couples fighting over who gets the kids.  Fighting over their own children like they are some sort of property to be traded back and forth.  There are many people that believe ALL mothers should always have custody with very little to no visitation for fathers; and likewise there are those out there that believe the opposite, ALL fathers should get custody and mothers should get little to no visitation.

Personally I don’t see how so many people can see this issue in such black and white terms.  Not ALL mothers are good parents and not ALL fathers are good parents.  For the most part the daily news will show us that most child abuse and child murders are committed by fathers, and yes, occasionally by mothers.  This still doesn’t prove that ALL fathers are bad or good or that ALL mothers are bad or good.

In the last few years I have learned more about the Father’s Rights Movement, and I can say that I’m more than a little shocked at what I’ve learned.  The Father’s Rights Advocates would have everyone believe that they are just concerned for fathers as a whole having shared or joint custody.  They would have us believe that their number one concern is actually the children in divorces and custody cases.  On the surface if one doesn’t dig too much that sounds wonderful.

However, when looked at further it is easily seen what the real agenda is for the Father’s Rights Movement.  The further abuse and victimization of their ex-wives and children.  Before I go any further here, I’d like to point out that I fully believe that good fathers have

sought out the assistance of the Father’s Rights Movement and one of two things happens... they either leave, frustrated and still alone in their plight OR they become enmeshed in the bitterness which abounds.

What I see out of Father’s Rights Advocates around the internet appears to be mostly just a bunch of men (and a few women that will do anything to get the attention or have a little power for themselves) who have been abusive in one way or another to the mother of their children and now feel that comfy rug of power and control being ripped from under their feet.

What better way to continue to abuse and control your victim when they walk away than to take possession of their children?

One main reason that I’ve formed the opinion that I have of the Father’s Rights Movement is because only abusers would look at the news we see of fathers murdering and abusing their kids and deny that it happens, or make excuses for it happening.  The strict adherence to the ‘ALL fathers should have custody’ line that they feed everyone is the basis of my opinion that the majority of those in the movement are abusers grasping at keeping the power and control they had.

Here is an example, mind you... this is only one search, but there are many like this.

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do wifes come back after losing custody?

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Google

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www.google.com

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74-82-64-35.rdns.blackberry.net

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74.82.64.35 [Label IP Address]

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Why would someone look for this?  Other than because they are contemplating attempting to gain custody through the Family Court just to get their ex-wife back under their power.  This doesn’t sound like a man who loves his kids and wants the best for them, this sounds like a man who loves control and will use whatever means available to him to maintain or re-gain his power and control.

I never meant for this to be this long, so I will wrap this up by saying... not ALL men should have access to their children regardless of what the FR Advocates say.  Likewise, I can admit that not ALL women that give birth are the best parent choice either.  The natural equipment that we are born with which enables us to create life does NOT dictate how a person will be as a parent.

Since it is obvious that I have much more to say about this... there will be other posts on this subject.

It’s All About the Power and Control, I Mean the Kids - Part Two

“Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.” ~ Cyril Connolly (1903-1974)

It’s All About the Power and Control, I Mean the Kids - Part Two

Ok, so with that thought in mind I move on to part two of this topic, and oh yes there will be a part three... just don’t you worry. 

As I was saying in part one, the people who make up the Father’s Rights Movement may not have started out where they have ended up.  They originally may have been honestly good fathers and what they have morphed into is the result of many abusers jumping onboard and running away with the movement.

Along these lines the men in the FR Movement have touted and tried to throw in the face of all women (feminists, non-feminists, mothers and every one really) a quote from Gloria Steinem... attempting to ‘prove’ that even SHE sees their side of it, that fathers need to be equal in parenting...  FR’s go on with that thought regardless of whether or not the father is abusive.

The quote I’m referring to is:  “Women can't be equal outside the home until men are equal in it.”

As far as I can find Gloria Steinem actually said this sentence twice, once in an interview published in the NY Daily News and once in an article she wrote which was published in the Opinion Section of the LA Times.  The LA Times article is no longer available but I found the article copied here, so that I can still reference it.

In both cases the FR Movement refuses to take the quote in the context of what she was actually saying.  Taking shit out of context is one of my biggest pet peeves and in this case shows how totally twisted they have actually gotten it.

In the interview, which was for the occasion of her 75th birthday, she was speaking in a general sense of women’s equality.  What she actually said was: 

“We’ve demonstrated that women can do what men do, but not yet that men can do what women do. That’s why most women have two jobs — one inside the home and one outside it — which is impossible. The truth is that women can’t be equal outside the home until men are equal in it.”

In the article she wrote for the LA Times she was speaking about Sarah Palin running for VP.  What she actually said was: 

Being a hope-a-holic, however, I can see two long-term bipartisan gains from this contest.

Republicans may learn they can't appeal to right-wing patriarchs and most women at the same time. A loss in November could cause the centrist majority of Republicans to take back their party, which was the first to support the Equal Rights Amendment and should be the last to want to invite government into the wombs of women.

And American women, who suffer more because of having two full-time jobs than from any other single injustice, finally have support on a national stage from male leaders who know that women can't be equal outside the home until men are equal in it. Barack Obama and Joe Biden are campaigning on their belief that men should be, can be and want to be at home for their children.

She wasn’t saying that men should be equal in the home, thus supporting fathers being caregivers to young children then turning around and abusing them because they are not equipped to handle it.  What she is saying is that women have TWO jobs, which are impossible to juggle from a man’s point of view... but that women do it everyday.

Yes, she does state that Obama and Biden were campaigning on their belief that men should, can and want to be home for their kids.  She did NOT say she supports that... she specifically used the words “their belief”. 

So, Father’s Rights Activists.... I ask you this, where exactly does Gloria Steinem say you should be allowed to stay home and not work while your children’s mom does and pays you child support to abuse your kids?  I must have missed that.

I still stick to my opinion that most of those in the FR Movement are abusers trying to cram their ideological patriarchal power and control down everyone else’s throats.

SAY NO - UNiTE to Stop Violence Against Mothers And Their Children

Please go to link below sign in and SAY NO-UNiTE To End Violence Against Women AND THEIR CHILDREN.

Stop Violence Against Mothers And Their Children

As many are aware, there is a silent genocide occurring against women. This is part of a major reason why women all over the world are united to end violence against women.  What many do not know or connect is that a lot of women experiencing violence perpetrated against them are also mothers.  Many ads on stopping violence against women portray women without children as a means to get the message across clearly; but they fail to represent the large proportion of mothers in this situation. 

Experts in intimate partner violence have noted that there is a high correlation between abuse and pregnancy.  Some scholars state that this is because they are envious of the relationship between the mother and the child.  Using violence, coercion and control is often part of the effort to destroy these bonds.  The problem then exacerbates when a mother tries to leave--often not to save herself but to save the child.  Leaving is one of the most dangerous times for all women enduring intimate partner violence, and, accompanied with an inadequate system, the odds are stacked against her.  With a community plagued by stereotypes on child custody cases, closed courtrooms and loopholes in laws compounded by pop-psychology, we have a situation where most mothers in this predicament are torn away from the children they tried to protect.  In the 1980s, Dr Richard Gardner coined the term, “Parent Alienation Syndrome”.  This term remained a term only, because most of the scientific community rejected it.  His literature promoted ideas that victims of abuse were mentally ill and deliberately raised concerns about the abuse as an act of hate.  Dr Richard Gardner also testified in a homicide case where a mother was shot 13 times.  Gardner claimed that her “alienating behavior” drove him to kill her.  Although the scientific community rejected Parent Alienation Syndrome, the legal community embraced it.  Carefully removing the word "syndrome", the belief set remained.  Whilst his work began in US, he traveled around the world promoting these ideas to court professionals and others who had a direct influence on child custody case outcomes.  Some organizations that offer training for judges even held workshops on “maternal gate-keeping”, which trivialized the experiences of women and children leaving intimate partner violence.   Whilst Dr. Gardner passed away several years ago, his doctrine lives on and others have polished up his work to continue its grave influence upon the legal community. 

Mothers are often subjected to degrading treatment within the courtrooms where they are forced to deny their experiences and their need to survive and protect--or they will face jail.  All legal avenues within this culture are blocked.  This is why we have a battered mothers custody conference where mothers, professionals and young people unite to end violence against women and children through the system.  It is why I traveled all the way from Australia to be there this year amongst others who have also traveled from other parts of the globe to attend.  It is a global issue that affects many.  This year, Holly Ann Collins, the first American to receive asylum in Netherlands, spoke about her ordeal.  Revered by many as a brave mother who, against all odds, was able to save herself and her children.  She was listed and hunted by US as an abductor even though they knew why she ran.  She arrived at the airport with a suitcase of evidence which led to her being granted asylum.  She was hard on herself because she did not do it sooner.  Whilst leaving with the children under these circumstances should be seen as the best thing to do, there is no legal avenue to do so.  Some laws and treaties appear from the surface to have some consideration of women and children experiencing violence, but the processes, culture, economics and ambiguity of the situation stifle opportunities to do so.  Holly Ann Collins' outcome is a rare one.  We need better laws that protect mothers and children from violence without punishment or further victimization. 

As many are aware, there is a silent genocide occurring against women. This is part of a major reason why women all over the world are united to end violence against women.  What many do not know or connect is that a lot of women experiencing violence perpetrated against them are also mothers.  Many ads on stopping violence against women portray women without children as a means to get the message across clearly; but they fail to represent the large proportion of mothers in this situation. 

Experts in intimate partner violence have noted that there is a high correlation between abuse and pregnancy.  Some scholars state that this is because they are envious of the relationship between the mother and the child.  Using violence, coercion and control is often part of the effort to destroy these bonds.  The problem then exacerbates when a mother tries to leave--often not to save herself but to save the child.  Leaving is one of the most dangerous times for all women enduring intimate partner violence, and, accompanied with an inadequate system, the odds are stacked against her.  With a community plagued by stereotypes on child custody cases, closed courtrooms and loopholes in laws compounded by pop-psychology, we have a situation where most mothers in this predicament are torn away from the children they tried to protect.  In the 1980s, Dr Richard Gardner coined the term, “Parent Alienation Syndrome”.  This term remained a term only, because most of the scientific community rejected it.  His literature promoted ideas that victims of abuse were mentally ill and deliberately raised concerns about the abuse as an act of hate.  Dr Richard Gardner also testified in a homicide case where a mother was shot 13 times.  Gardner claimed that her “alienating behavior” drove him to kill her.  Although the scientific community rejected Parent Alienation Syndrome, the legal community embraced it.  Carefully removing the word "syndrome", the belief set remained.  Whilst his work began in US, he traveled around the world promoting these ideas to court professionals and others who had a direct influence on child custody case outcomes.  Some organizations that offer training for judges even held workshops on “maternal gate-keeping”, which trivialized the experiences of women and children leaving intimate partner violence.   Whilst Dr. Gardner passed away several years ago, his doctrine lives on and others have polished up his work to continue its grave influence upon the legal community. 

Mothers are often subjected to degrading treatment within the courtrooms where they are forced to deny their experiences and their need to survive and protect--or they will face jail.  All legal avenues within this culture are blocked.  This is why we have a battered mothers custody conference where mothers, professionals and young people unite to end violence against women and children through the system.  It is why I traveled all the way from Australia to be there this year amongst others who have also traveled from other parts of the globe to attend.  It is a global issue that affects many.  This year, Holly Ann Collins, the first American to receive asylum in Netherlands, spoke about her ordeal.  Revered by many as a brave mother who, against all odds, was able to save herself and her children.  She was listed and hunted by US as an abductor even though they knew why she ran.  She arrived at the airport with a suitcase of evidence which led to her being granted asylum.  She was hard on herself because she did not do it sooner.  Whilst leaving with the children under these circumstances should be seen as the best thing to do, there is no legal avenue to do so.  Some laws and treaties appear from the surface to have some consideration of women and children experiencing violence, but the processes, culture, economics and ambiguity of the situation stifle opportunities to do so.  Holly Ann Collins' outcome is a rare one.  We need better laws that protect mothers and children from violence without punishment or further victimization. 

 

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VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN: YOUR HEALTH IS AFFECTED

VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN: YOUR HEALTH IS AFFECTED

A report out by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services on the Women’s Health website details the effects of violence on women.  Here is an excerpt of the report…an excerpt I found particularly interesting because it discusses women that abuse children.  This is enlightening to discover this:

Impact on children

Violence against women can also impact children. About 50 percent of men who assault their wives also physically abuse their children. Also, women who are abused are more likely to abuse their children. And children can be injured during violence between their parents.  Studies show children who witness or experience violence at home may have long-term physical, emotional, and social problems. They are also more likely to experience or commit violence in the future.  Protect your children by getting help for yourself.

Common physical injuries and health problems from violence include:
• Increased risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and HIV, which can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease and a higher risk of cervical cancer
• Unwanted pregnancies, or rapid, repeat pregnancies
• Miscarriages and other reproductive problems
• Vaginal bleeding or pelvic pain
• Injuries such as bruises, cuts, broken bones, or internal damage
• Back or neck pain
• Chronic pain syndrome
• Trouble sleeping and nightmares
• High blood pressure or chest pain
• Arthritis
• High stress and lowered immune system
• Central nervous system problems, such as headaches, seizures, or nerve damage
• Respiratory problems, such as asthma and shortness of breath
• Digestive problems, such as stomach ulcers and nausea

To download a copy of the report, which discusses a wide range of overall health effects for being a victim of domestic violence, please click here.