A DREAM FOR YOU (a mother’s dream for her daughter)

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(a mother’s dream for her daughter)

If I could dream
The dream I wanted too,
I would close my eyes,
And dream a dream for you.

I would give you all the world,
That you are deserving of,
And to you I would give
My everlasting love.

I would see to it,
That you were never sad.
And nothing in your life
Would ever happen bad.

I would wish for you,
All things would go your way,
And you would always be happy,
Each and every day.

In my dream
You would stay
Just as beautiful
As you are today.

Life for you would be as perfect
As the blueness of the sky,
And no one would ever hurt you,
Or ever make you cry.

I know it's just a dream,
But if dreams could come true,
I would close my eyes,
And dream a dream for you.



Claudine Dombrowski




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Jana Mackeys Campaign Topeka KS YWCA 12-10-2009

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Jana's Campaign

Curt Brungardt
"Domestic violence is often a hidden act. Too often it is seen as a private matter between partners. IT IS NOT. Domestic violence is a public issue. Domestic violence is a public crime that demands a public response!"

-Curt Brungardt
Jana's Stepfather

The Time for Action is Now!

According to a recent United Nations report, one in every three women worldwide will directly experience violence in their lifetime. The overwhelming majority of these women will be physically harmed by their intimate partners. In the United States, domestic violence is recognized as the leading cause of injuries experienced by women. And data from the US Department of Justice says on an average, three women every day are killed by their current or former partners. On July 3, 2008, Jana Lynne Mackey, a University of Kansas law student was one of these fatalities.

In honor of Jana, a committed group of advocates have created Jana's Campaign to encourage and promote a public policy response to domestic violence. "We believe it is our responsibility to use the story of Jana's life and the story of her death to help reduce violence against women." Jana's Campaign promotes new and effective legislation and other government action that secures safety and justice for victims of domestic violence. "It is our deep desire to play a significant role in breaking the cycle of domestic violence and be a catalyst for social change."

Public Policy Advocacy

Jana's Campaign is a grassroots, community-based advocacy effort developed for the purpose of working in the domestic violence public policy arena. Partnering with other advocates, victims, the criminal justice system and law makers, this campaign encourages the development of effective state and national public policy. The campaign's goal is to move the issues of domestic violence to the top of the political agenda and support legislation that enhances victim's services, prevention and treatment programs, and provides for true accountability and justice. Currently Jana's Campaign is supporting new legislation in Jana's home state of Kansas. To learn more about the proposed Kansas domestic violence legislation click here.

"The actions of government bodies - their laws, practices, regulatory measures, and funding priorities - profoundly affect how women and their families experience life and freedom from domestic violence."

-National Online Resource Center on Violence Against Women

About Jana and Her Legacy

Jana Mackey was well-known throughout Kansas for her advocacy for women's rights. She had spent years volunteering to aid victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. She received her bachelor's degree in Women's Studies from KU and was an active participant in KU's Commission on the Status of Women. Jana also served as one of the youngest lobbyists at the Kansas State Capitol for the National Organization for Women.

The most unlikely of domestic violence victims, KU law student Jana Mackey was found dead in her ex-boyfriend's home on July 3, 2008. For more about Jana please visit Jana's story.

Jana's Campaign to stop domestic violence was motivated by, and developed as part of, Jana Mackey's Eleven hundred Torches foundation. Eleven Hundred Torches was created after Jana's death and was designed to encourage hundreds of ordinary citizens to serve others.

Inspired by Jana's life, and motivated into action by her death, Eleven Hundred Torcheswas created to inspire others to make a difference.
On July 9th, 2008, speakers at "Jana's celebration of life" service called on the 1100 people in attendance to pick up her fallen torch and find the courage to carry her work forward. It is our hope that her single torch will soon become eleven hundred torches. Eleven hundred others making a difference in our world.
For more information visit 1100torches.org
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Jana's Campaign recommends that Kansas lawmakers pass the DV tag legislation

News & Events

Jana's Campaign kick-off event scheduled

Jana's Campaign will have its official kick-off activity and press conference on Dec. 10 in Topeka, KS. This event is scheduled during the International

16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence (Nov. 25 - Dec. 10). More 1More 2

Artist records song about Jana

Lance Stafford
Award-winning singer and songwriter Lance Stafford has written and recorded a song in honor of Jana and her legacy.

"Jana's Light Will Shine"
Click here to listen

Jana's Campaign announces Staff appointments

Jana's Campaign is happy to announce the appointment of several staff positions who will work closely with the leadership team.
Liz Stuewe - Kansas State Coordinator/Lobbyist (Lawrence, KS)
Lou Zhai - International Policy Advocate (Yangzhau, China)
Tisha Bieker - Administrative Assistant (Colby, KS)
Matt Peters - Webmaster (Beloit, KS)

Congressman Jerry Moran gives speech about Jana

For the second time, Kansas Congressman Jerry Moran has gone to the floor of the House of Representatives to talk about Jana and Domestic Violence. - SEE VIDEO

Brungardts' Speak Out
Curt and Christie Brungardt (Jana's parents) are speaking throughout the state calling on Kansans to support D.V. tag legislation.

January 30 - Hays, KS
December 10 - Topeka, KS
November 20 - Salina, KS
November 4 - Lawrence, KS
October 21 - Topeka, KS
October 20 - Hays, KS
October 5 - Lindsburg, KS
October 3 - Wichita, KS
September 17 - Lawrence, KS

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Another Dad Killed Mom and Son Murder/Suicide leaves teen, mom dead | KVOA.com | Tucson, Arizona

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Murder/Suicide leaves teen, mom dead | KVOA.com | Tucson, Arizona

TUCSON - Tucson Police Department Homicide Detectives are investigating the circumstances surrounding death of 16 year-old Dario Morales, 34 year-old ...

Murder/Suicide leaves teen, mom dead

Posted - 12/1/2009 at 11:56AM


Murder/Suicide leaves teen, mom dead

TUCSON - Tucson Police Department Homicide Detectives are investigating the circumstances surrounding death of 16 year-old Dario Morales, 34 year-old Stephanie Morales and 35 year-old Mario Morales Sr.

Around 5:20 p.m. Monday night, officers from were called to the 3300 block of N. Flowing Wells. Upon arrival, officers found Dario, Stephanie and Mario deceased inside the home.

Detectives say Stephanie and Mario were married but had recently separated.

According to Tucson Police, the investigation has revealed that Mario shot and killed his son Dario and his wife Stephanie before turning the gun on himself.

News 4 has also confirmed Dario was a student at nearby Flowing Wells High School. There are grief counselors at the school today for students.

Stay with News4 for the latest developments on this story.

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"Now that we know, what are we doing about it?"; The Seventh Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference:Friday January 8th - Sunday 10th, 2010

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The Seventh Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference:

"Now that we know, what are we doing about it?"

Friday January 8th - Sunday 10th, 2010

Holiday Inn Turf, 205 Wolf Road, Albany, NY

Make reservations early to get the $99 Conference Rate

Online Registration

2010 Announcement, Brochure, and Mail-In Registration

The Conference in PBS' Documentary Film: Breaking the Silence, Children's Stories

Center for Judicial Excellence Film: Family Court Crisis

   About the Conference


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Announcement and General Information

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Two journalists comment on the 2009 conference:



By Garland Waller

January 13, 2009

The start of the New Year always fills me with hope, with plans for change, with determination. But for me, there is also an annual event that overshadows the hoopla and superficial goals. For me, the New Year heralds the Battered Mothers Custody Conference ... full article

This is Really Hard to Believe


By Barry Nolan

Thursday, 15 January 2009 09:14

This is really hard to believe. I am sitting in a room filled with women who were beaten, and violated in terrible ways. The room is not in Bosnia, or some far flung third-world hell-hole. I am ... at the Battered Mothers Custody Conference ... full article



Holly Ann Collins sought asylum for her children and herself in the Netherlands to escape abuse; her case has recently received national attention. Holly's daughter Jennifer, now 23, is unabashedly demanding answers from America's family courts.  Jennifer has posted extensive information, court documents, and videos online atChildrenUnderground.;She presented her family's story at the 2009 conference.



The Conference includes presentations, round-table discussions, and question & answer sessions with nationally distinguished
professionals whose work is focused on resolving the complex issues facing battered women as they strive to protect themselves
and their children in and out of court during custody and visitation disputes.  It is open to lay persons and of special interest to
advocates, social workers, psychologists, attorneys, judges, legal personnel, and others involved in the issue of battered women's
and abused children's legal and civil rights being routinely violated by family courts, DSS, and other government systems.

Battered Women, Abused Children, and Child Custody: A National Crisis is not funded and has no paid staff.
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Family Courts Betray “Best Interests of the Child” and Award Child Custody to Abusive Fathers

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Family Courts Betray “Best Interests of the Child” and Award Child Custody to Abusive Fathers

Filed under: Best interest of the child, Child Abuse, Child Custody, Child Custody Battle, Child Custody Issues, Child Custody Mediation, Child Custody for mothers, Child custody for fathers, Children and Domestic Violence, Children who witness abuse, Children's rights, Coparenting, Corrupt Judges, Corrupt Lawyers, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Violence, Dr. Richard Gardner, Family Court Reform, Family Courts, Family Rights, Fathers Rights, Getting screwed by the Family Courts, Legal abuse, Non-custodial Mothers, Noncustodial Mothers, Parental Alienation Syndrome, parental alienation — justice4mothers @ 8:16 pm

From Women’s enews:

Biased Family Court System Hurts Mothers


By Garland Waller

WEnews contributor


Behind closed doors of the family court system, thousands of women each year lose child custody to violent men who beat and abuse mothers and children. The writer says family courts are not family-friendly and betray the best interests of the child.

(WOMENSENEWS)–Studies show that in approximately 70 percent of challenged cases, battering parents have been able to convince authorities during custody battles that their victim is unfit or undeserving of sole custody, according to a recent report published by the American Judges Foundation.

That statement would have once shocked me, but no more. Nor am I surprised when I read that a family court judge has awarded custody of a 3-year-old girl to the father who has violently beaten her mother. I do not even lift an eyebrow when a 2-year-old boy, who comes home from unsupervised visitation with his dad, has a diaper filled with his own rectal blood and that same child is later turned over to his father on a full-time basis. And when a mother is thrown into jail, denied the right to ever see her children again, because she brought up the issue of child abuse in a family court, I’m sickened, but not shocked.

These injustices are commonplace today in the closed-door family court system. These courts often claim to operate in a manner consistent with the “best interests of the child.” In practice this often means that a judge, often a male judge, biased and imperious, defines that phrase. These judges decide, time and time again, when a woman raises the allegation of sexual abuse in a custody dispute, that it is she who will lose her children forever.

garlandI used to think that the family court system was basically fair. That was before my childhood friend, Diane Hofheimer, asked me to consider doing a documentary on the family courts. She had taught herself the law so that she could work with her attorney husband, Charlie Hofheimer, in their Virginia law practice.

Thousands of Mothers Lose Their Children to Abusive Fathers

Representing only women in divorce and custody cases, Diane and Charlie began my education with one grisly case. I thought it was a fluke, but I agreed to look at some of the legal documents. And so began my journey into the dark world of family courts.

What I learned was that thousands of women are losing custody of their children to men with histories of violence and sexual abuse. Sure, these cases are complicated, but it doesn’t take a legal genius to figure out that it’s not good for kids to watch daddy break mommy’s jaw. Research shows a high correlation between domestic violence and child sexual abuse.”We have created a system that purports to be a gatekeeper–keeping victims from victimizers–but the system is really the welcome mat for victimizers to have access to the victims,” says Richard Ducote, a nationally recognized child advocate and attorney. He adds that there has been virtually no change in the process during the past two decades.

In fact, a pilot study in the early 1990s by the California Protective Parent Association and Mothers of Lost Children found that 91 percent of fathers who were identified by their children as perpetrators of sexual abuse received full or partial unsupervised custody of the children and that in 54 percent of cases the non-abusing mother was placed on supervised visitation.

One primary reason for what many consider a disastrous outcome, Ducote and other experts say, is the popularity of the theories of Dr. Richard Gardner, whose ideas are apparently more persuasive to judges than the testimony of battered women and victimized children.

Gardner’s brainchild is Parental Alienation Syndrome. This is the name given for the practice of one parent saying disparaging things about the other parent in an attempt to alienate the child from the ex-spouse. This so-called syndrome is based on anecdotal evidence. Gardner’s books on the subject are self-published, something that should give judges and experts pause, even though he does look good on paper.

He’s a professor at Columbia Medical School and has been publishing papers for two decades. Fathers’ rights groups love him.

Not addressed by Dr. Gardner and his adherents are what a mother should say to a child raped by her father. They merely discount all such allegations as examples of parental alienation syndrome, or some variation of it under a different name such as SAID (Sexual Allegations in Divorce) Syndrome, Malicious Mother Syndrome or some other fabricated condition.

These experts are certainly free to believe whatever they wish to, but much to the harm of thousands of children and their caring, protective parents, these ideas have been accepted by personnel in most of the family courts in the country: the judges, court-appointed lawyers charged with protecting the child’s interests, and custody evaluators such as psychologists and social workers.

In essentially every case in which courts place children with abusers, despite substantial evidence of sexual abuse or domestic violence and no evidence of fabrication on the protecting parent’s part, it is the parental alienation syndrome that is used by the judge, the evaluator or the child’s lawyer to ignore and discount the abuse evidence and to wrongfully construe all of the child’s symptoms as evidence of alienation.
Parental Alienation Syndrome Used to Wrongly Blame Mothers

My colleague Hofheimer is convinced that the so-called syndrome is to psychology what voodoo is to surgery.

“What would a good mother do,” I asked Dr. Gardner two years ago when interviewing him for the documentary, “if her child told her of sexual abuse by his or her father.”

His answer: “What would she say? Don’t you say that about your father. If you do, I’ll beat you.”

That’s on tape and I have a signed release.

In researching my documentary, I have met many honest, caring and courageous mothers who, for speaking the truth, have been publicly called crazy, hysterical and delusional, and labeled with all kinds of pseudo-disorders for being strong and for fighting for the safety of their children.

Yet some of them have been nearly broken by the family court system, and the damage to their children is immeasurable. We must act now to begin reforming our family courts.

Garland Waller is an assistant professor in the Television Department at Boston University’s College of Communication. She has produced more than 10 award-winning documentaries.

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Attention Judges and Lawmakers: This is the REAL AGENDA of the Father’s Rights Movement

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Attention Judges and Lawmakers: This is the REAL AGENDA of the Father’s Rights Movement

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I had been alerted to this website today, and I find myself feeling sick (again).  It is these corrupt tactics that ensure children are taken from their mothers.  I see these tactics used and talked about all the time….they are implied by father’s rights lawyers in their advertising.  Mothers need to know what they are up against if their abuser wants the children.  Because one of the main reasons besides wanting to punish and control his victim (you), gettting out of paying child support and possibly getting it from his victim is at the top of his list.

Personally I think that if the child support issue was tossed out or dealt with more fairly for everyone’s sake, fathers would probably be in favor of letting children continue being with their primary caregiver instead of ripping them away. But there are always the abusers out there that nothing else matters except hurting their victim.

This is from a real father’s rights site and repost on the appropriately named blog World O’ Crap:

How Fathers Can Win Child Custody


So you have a child with a soon-to-be ex-girlfriend or ex-wife, and you are wondering what is going to happen to your children. The first thing you need to be aware of is this: The laws and family court system are not set up fairly towards fathers. The laws are set up to award custody to the parent who has had the most involvement so far raising the child, which means the parent who has worked the least – this is virtually always the mother. This usually guarantees that the mother will receive custody of the child, and since child support is mandatory, that you will be paying several hundred dollars in child support to her each month. Now does this make sense?

Hell no!  Why should the parent who has had the most involvement in raising the child get custody of the child?  But even more importantly, why should the other parent have to pay to support that child after splitting with its mother?  (As the author says later, “A fairer system would be to eliminate child support and have the parent who is fortunate enough to be awarded custody have full responsibility for providing for the children when they are with that parent.” And if we had that fairer system, you could let your bitch of an ex have custody of the damned rugrats.  But since we have our current unfair system, your only recourse is to get custody of the kids so that you can save some bucks.  Um, and do what’s best for your precious offspring.  Yeah, that’s the ticket!

If you believe that you are the better parent, you need to read this guide and find out everything you need to know in order to have the best chance at obtaining full custody. If you choose not to get full custody of your child, not only are you in for a lifetime of emotional headaches but a lot of child support – which you will find does not all get spent on your child.

But what if you don’t believe you are the better parent?  Well, fight for full custody anyway, because otherwise you’ll be paying child support, and it will go toward such things as paying the mortgage for the house your child lives in — a house that your ex will also get to live in.  And that’s not fair!!!

The amount of child support you will end up paying as your child grows up is enough to buy a nice house. Let’s say you split up with your ex, and you have two children together, ages 1 and 4. The court orders you to pay $500/mth per child, based on your $45,000/year income, until the children turn 21 (some states end child support when the child turns 18, and others require it through age 21 and beyond). By the time your children are grown, you will have paid $444,000 in child support. The main cost of raising a child is childcare; outside of childcare (which ends around age 12), do you really believe that $1,000 is being spent on your two children each month?

The USDA has estimated the costs of raising a child.  In a single-parent home, with a pre-taxed income of $39,1000 per year, it would be $518 a month for the one-year-old, and $558 a month for the four-year-old (it gets progressively more expensive as the kids get older).  So yeah, I can really believe that $1000 a month is being spent on your two hypothetical children.

As the author notes, now that your ex is single, she’ll have to work full-time to support herself and the kids, and since she’ll make less money than you, “how does that qualify her as a better parent than you?”  (Not counting the fact that all the time she’s already spent raising the kids may have contributed to her having a better relationship with them.  However, if she gets custody of the children, the courts will make you pay child support.  And ”the main reason why the system is set up this way?”

The government would rather have you subsidize her than pay for her going on welfare. And the feminists have convinced the lawmakers and judges in society that women shouldn’t have to work to support their children if they don’t feel like it.

So, since she now works full-time, making her no better as a parent than you are, why should the feminists force you to subsidize her, so that she doesn’t have to work to support her children?  If the damn goverment would just let her go on welfare, then things would be just fine.  But NOOOO!  It insists that you support your kids.

But why pay child support when it’s so much cheaper to just get custody of the kids — so, let’s learn “The Rules of Winning Child Custody.”

1.  Get an agressive lawyer

When you consider how much money you have to lose in child support over the years until your child turns 18 or 21, and the amount of emotional stress you will go through all of those years if your ex wins custody, and the fact that the court system is stacked against fathers, do you really think it’s wise to handle your case without the assistance of an attorney?

Sure, lawyers are expensive, but think of all the money you’ll save by not having to pay child support.

I hear you ask, “Doesn’t it actually cost money to raise kids, so that if I do get custody, I’ll still have to pay for their upkeep?”

Heck no!  You can send them out to work as chimney sweeps, and actually make money on the deal!

2.  Use the court system to wear down your ex

Whether you are representing yourself or have hired an attorney, keep in mind the more work you create for your ex, the more you will wear down her resolve to fight you and keep full custody of the kids. If your ex’s main reason for retaining full custody of your children is to collect free child support from you, it will vanish fast once all of the child support is going to pay her attorney to fight you in court.

And if, because of your aggressive use of the court system, she is forced to use all her child support funds to pay lawyers, will your kids suffer?  Who cares.  The important thing is preventing your ex from benefiting from your dough.  (The best interests of the children never really come up in this piece, oddly enough.)

3. Keep the playing field uneven

If your ex does not have an attorney, consider yourself fortunate – this gives you a huge advantage. The less she knows about the legal system, the better chance you have that she will do something in the eyes of the court that will hurt her chances of getting custody. If she asks for your opinion on whether she needs an attorney, try to convince her that she does not need one and emphasize the cost to her.

In fact, tell her that lawyers charge a billion dollars an hour, so you certainly aren’t going to use one.  Say that you don’t want to make this process adversarial, and that you don’t see why the two of you can’t work out a joint custody arrangement that will make things as easy as possible for the kids. … And if your ex believes you, then you and your lawyer (the most blood-thirsty one in the state) can use it as evidence that she’s mentally incompetent.

4. Harrass your ex, both in person and via the court system

When you talk to your ex, such as when you are arranging to exchange the children for your visitation, be sure to bring up issues with her raising your children that bother you. The more you point out ways she needs to change her behavior in order to be a better parent and maintain custody, the more you will bother her. You know your ex – will she eventually give in if you continue to bring up issues that bother her and continue to take her to court?

You know your ex — can you cause her to have a mental breakdown if you keep harping on what a bad mother she is, and how the courts are going to take away her kids?

5.  Cause your kids to bond with people in your camp, so the judge will think twice about taking them away from their new loving relationships

What you can do: Get remarried first, then file for custody. If you have relatives nearby, pay them to baby sit so they become a big part of your child’s life.

You can dump the new wife and the paid relatives once you have custody.

6.  Make it look like your kids’ lives suck

If you have not yet split up physically, try to remain in the house with the children and have your ex move out. If you have left the home, start building a case as to why the child is not doing well living at the house, attending the nearby school, etc. Do research on the school or daycare the child is attending to obtain evidence of why that particular facility is bad for your child. Information on schools can be found on the state department of education websites, and information on daycares is generally also available from the state, usually from the department responsible for welfare.

Start building a case about why the house the kid has always lived in, and the school he’s always attended, are bad for him, even though you evidentially thought they were just fine when you were with his mother.

7.  Make your ex look crazy

Collect any records you have on the mental instability of your ex or her family, including medical records, and any police reports or convictions of their physical violence. Have a tape recorder handy to tape her if she has angry outbursts.

And how do you collect medical records on your ex and her family?  Well, use your imagination on that one.

And try to provoke her, so you can tape her angry outburts — it will not only help your case,  it’s also good, sadistic fun!

8.  Make the mother of your children appear to be a shiftless, drunken, drug-crazed slut

If there is no substantial change in circumstances, you will need to provide the court with a composite of reasons why your ex is unfit. For example, a strong case might provide evidence that your ex abuses alcohol, drugs, sleeps around and goes from boyfriend to boyfriend who use drugs in front of the children, cannot maintain a stable residence, leaves the children excessively in daycare, which is a substandard daycare, smokes in the house and in the car although the children are asthmatic, cannot maintain a steady job, and frequently withholds visitation from you.

This would be a “strong case,” hint, hint.  Surely you’ve got reason to believe that your ex does most of the things on that list.

9.  Take a tip from Coppola’s The Conversation, and “Record All of Your Phone Conversations With Your Ex and Your Children”

Some states permit you to record phone conversations without the other party knowing. There is a list of all 50 states and their laws on recording phone calls located at http://www.rcfp.org/taping/. If you live in one of the states where it is legal, you should start automatically recording every conversation you have with your ex or your kids when they are at her house.

And, through selective editing, you can use these conversations to prove all kinds of stuff..

10.  At custody evaluation time, get a hired-gun psychology to counter the court’s feminazi social worker

When you file for a change of custody, the court will probably order a custody evaluation. These are assessments by a social worker that usually end up favoring the mother. The type of person that is attracted to this type of job are low income women with a chip on their shoulders; they are not going to be predisposed to making a determination that children should be with their fathers. [...] One way to combat these custody evaluations is to preempt them with a psychological evaluation of your own. Find a child psychologist who has a reputation for being favorable to fathers, and preferably also one on the court’s approved list of psychologists, if the court has one, and have him do a preliminary evaluation of your child.

Social workers are poor, man-hating lesbians – that’s the only reason they would think that a fine father like yourself shouldn’t have custody of your two adorable children, little, um, “Boy” and “Other Kid.”

11.  Get your hired psychologist to ask your kids “leading questions” about how unfit their mom is

You may want to give the psychologist leading questions to ask your child, such as whether your child would rather live with you, if mother abuses drugs, alcohol, or smoking in front of the child, if people close to the mother abuse or sexually touch the child, etc. – whatever bad things your child has indicated to you about living with your ex.

If your child has indicated that the worst thing about living with his mother is that she makes him do his homework, then have the shrink ask him if his mother is damaging his mental health by pushing him too hard.  If he’s complained about how she withheld his allowance because he didn’t clean up his room, then suggest that the psychologist ask him if she is an obsessive control freak with a cleanliness obsession.  And so on.

Anyway, those are just a few of tips on “How Fathers Can Win Custody.”  And do your best to win custody, because otherwise you’ll have to pay child support, and that can really put a crimp in your lifestyle.  Plus, your ex, whom you hate, will have control of that money.  And that’s what winning custody is all about: spiting your ex.

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Kansas legislators weigh changes to child-custody laws

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Kansas legislators weigh changes to child-custody laws

The Star’s Topeka correspondenthttp://www.kansascity.com/115/story/1616887.html

TOPEKA | Paperwork was supposed to be all that remained before Marilyn and Jim Dilley became their 4-year-old foster son’s legal guardians.

The Olathe couple had been foster parents to more than a dozen children over five years without any problems. They already had adopted one child, and their caseworker said adopting a second would not be a problem.

Then the boy — whom the Dilleys call Jack — got a new caseworker. One day last fall, the caseworker suddenly took Jack away. Marilyn Dilley said that the caseworker told her only that there had been “an allegation.”

It took a month to learn more. Jim Dilley was accused of spanking Jack at a tee-ball practice, and the caseworker said she saw Dilley tap Jack on the head with mail. The Dilleys objected, saying the spanking never happened and calling the tap a harmless gesture, but the appeals failed. They haven’t seen Jack in nearly three months.

“My husband and I were dumbfounded,” Marilyn Dilley said. “…We were told we could adopt this child. We were told he was our son. We were just waiting for the paperwork.”

In light of similar stories, a panel of Kansas lawmakers is looking to tweak the state’s child-custody rules. The Committee on Children’s Issues last week heard from parents and foster parents like the Dilleys who said their children were removed with little or no explanation. Attempts to appeal the decisions went nowhere.

Rep. Mike Kiegerl, an Olathe Republican and the committee’s chairman, said the system needed more accountability. The state should not remove children from their homes without prompt and detailed explanations, he said.

Kiegerl said he had noticed a sharp increase in complaints about the child-custody system. Kiegerl said he thought Kansas’ private foster-care contractors were acting without adequate oversight from the state.

“It’s unbelievable how some of these cases are handled,” he said.

Don Jordan, the state’s secretary for social and rehabilitation services, said it was no surprise that parents complain after the state takes their children.

He said removing a child from a home isn’t a decision that his agency — or its contractors — takes lightly.

“When we do our job exactly right, we will break people’s hearts,” he said.

Kansas in 1996 became the first state to privatize its foster care and adoption system. Jordan said his agency works to ensure contractors follow the state’s rules.

Still, at the hearing last week, Jordan vowed to investigate the questions raised by lawmakers.

Kiegerl said he hoped to make reforming the child-custody system a priority when the Legislature convenes next month.

One possible change would give judges more power to place a child with a particular guardian or relative, even if it goes against a caseworker’s recommendation.

To reach David Klepper, call 785-354-1388 or send e-mail to dklepper@kcstar.com.

Posted on Mon, Dec. 07, 2009 10:46 PM

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Two documentaries that Explain the genocide and CRisis in Our Family Courts!!



petition overview | letter





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Elizabeth McVey - Children Have Rights Too

Lora Brislin is the mother of two daughters ages 6 and 4. Lora has not spoken to or seen her daughters since May of this year. In May Judge Phyllis Miller of Guinette County, Georgia ordered that ALL custody and visitation be taken from Lora, and that the girls be in the sole custody of their father, Charles Brislin, and of his new wife, Christina.

            Lora endured 5 years of physical and mental abuse at the hands of Charles Brislin, during which time he repeatedly hit Lora, as well as stalked, harassed, and verbally abused her. During their marriage Mr. Brislin wanted nothing to do with their two daughters. When Lora finally found the courage to leave Charles Brislin in October of 2006, Mr. Brislin suddenly became adamant about not only seeing his daughter, but about taking custody away from Lora Brislin. After visiting with their father, the oldest daughter began reporting that %u201Cdaddy%u201D and Christina were molesting her with a vibrator. Despite these allegations, Mr. Brislin was successful at convincing Judges Melonie Snell Connor of Guinette County and her %u201Csit-in%u201D, Judge Mark Louis, that their daughter was in fact being molested by her mother and not by Mr. Brislin and his wife. At that time Judge Mark Louis ruled that sole custody be given to Mr. Brislin and that Ms. Brislin be given limited visitation.        

            Again, despite the daughter%u2019s reports of sexual abuse by her father and Christina, Lora has been the one, for two years now who has had to endure a battery of psychological tests, chastisement and ridicule from the courts, and little help on the part of law enforcement officials. For two years Ms. Brislin has heard numerous pleas of help from her daughters and has tried to make the courts listen to her and her children and, once and for all, hear the TRUTH. Instead she was laughed at by the courts, told she was making false allegations against their father, and was a menace to her children. On May 4, 2009 Mr. Brislin was awarded sole custody and Lora was to have no contact with her daughters whatsoever.

            Lora Brislin, along with the undersigned, is confused by this outrageous injustice by the court. Ms. Brislin is not the only loving and responsible mother who has had her children literally ripped from her arms and placed in the sole custody of an abusive father. We are asking that this case be investigated, that this egregious injustice be dealt with, and that Lora and her daughters be reunited. If the daughters themselves were %u201Clistened%u201D to they would most likely state that they do not feel safe with their father and wish to be able to live with their mother. This grave misuse of power cannot be stood for! Clearly there is some reason other than simply poor judgment on the part of the courts that has caused Lora Brislin to lose all contact with her children. No matter what that hidden agenda might be, if the court%u2019s decision is allowed to stand the Guinette County court system will be continuing to place these children in harm%u2019s way and be punishing their mother for trying to protect them!

            There are men and women all over the country as well as all over the world, who are watching to see what is done about this horrific case of %u201Ccourt-ordered%u201D abuse. We believe that if government officials do not intervene in cases like this in which a clear misuse of power has destroyed the lives of two young children and their mother, then the government should be seen as, not only negligent, but as condoning this outrageous behavior on the part of the judge who seemingly, has to answer to no one!

            Our family court system was supposed to have been put in place for the purpose of aiding families, and in cases where abuse is involved, supporting the protective parent, thereby ensuring the safety of innocent and defenseless children. In this case, however, it appears that the very system that was put into place for the purpose of protecting children is, instead, aiding in the traumatizing of these helpless victims. We, the undersigned, are standing together in an attempt to speak for these little ones who are not allowed to speak for themselves and, in order to prevent further destruction in their lives, we are asking that this case be revisited and that The Truth finally be brought into The Light so that justice can prevail!

goal: 1,000


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